I have name changed because I want to be honest on here and some in RL know my posting name. This thread was inspired by the "alternatives to marriage" thread in Lone Parents.
I find on MN that sometimes the view of relationships can be a bit black and white. You SHOULD be happy and passionate and "in love" with your DP/DH/OH and if you are not then you should dump immediately. I do not speak about relationships involving abuse btw, one of the things I love about MN is the calling of abuse and the eye opening that so many need, it certainly sorted me out and helped me change my life.
What I mean is relationships where you don't have a great deal of feeling for the other person apart from not detesting them of course but they are a good father/mother, you and your dc would be much worse off if you separated and its nice to do things as a family and share the parenting load and so on. So you might as well stay in it as not. I just wonder how many relationships are like that? I suppose I am being nosy really .
I just think it is rather unrealistic to break up a family and go down the tough single parenting route unless actively unhappy. Any thoughts welcomed.
For the record I would describe my own relationship as above.
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Perennialnamechanger · 18/06/2011 13:21
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