Presents for my chldren from my family

[RealLife]

AIBU to expect family presents for my kids' birthdays or Christmas. Sometimes get a shop voucher or cheque in the post but not always - DD 18th today no cards, telephone calls, 1 20 pound voucher and prior agreement that I give her 100 pounds. as they are in Euro Zone.

It still upsets me when it happens - what should I do - am I a fool to keep sending presents for the sake of their kids - really tempted to back off now DD is 18.

[chicletteeth]

Send a present if you want to send one.
Don't expect one back though.
Teach your daughter the same.

[DogsBestFriend]

YABU to "expect" presents for your children. It's lovely if they are given willingly, even if it's only a pair of socks but there is no reason why anyone should be expected to provide gifts.

[Portofino]

Come to an agreement. We are in the Eurozone and have about 6 birthdays in August. It is plainly stupid to be sending cards and Amazon vouchers back and forth.

[floweryblue]

Who in your family do you think should send presents?

DP has about a million sisters, most of them have reproduced so far. He frequently forgets birthdays, especially of the sisters/nieces/nephews he hardly sees. He would probably be bankrupt if he tried to get them all gifts!

I have a very small family and we all do our best to give gifts for birthday or Christmas, but we still miss the odd occassion. It's not the end of the world.

[RealLife]

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[redexpat]

YANBU. I'm pretty sure it's the lack of sentiment that is upsetting you rather than the lack of a gift. No cards for an 18th? I wouldn't send them anything ever again!

[RealLife]

redexpat

Cheers that is exactly it but seems like if you can't beat em join them - have resisted for years but it seems like now is the time to make a stand.

[ddubsgirl]

my kids dont get anything from my side not even a call or text,your not alone xx

[HavePatience]

First time I've ever used that emoticon. But so appropriate here.