i havnt slept for 2 nights now worrying about this,i have had problems with my dad all of my life,he has a Jeckyl and Hyde personality nice one minute then in a foul mood the next,when i lived at home we constantly walked on eggshells,in the past he has been abusive towards me my mum and older brother
he has mellowed the past few years and when i found out i was pregnant i worried what he would be like with my child,my parents look after my son 2 days a week while i work my OH works full time so we have no one else to look after him
things have been fine till this week,my son is 14 months now and had 3 needles a few days ago,i went to my parents when i finished work and my son started crying he was basically having a paddy,my dad picked him up and sat him on his knee and cuddled him and he rubbed his leg,all i said was be careful dad where he had his needles its sore
he handed my son back to me and stomped away shouting,nasty grandad,arsehole grandad,wanker grandad,shithead grandad
he then sulked upstairs till we had our tea,he came down and sat in silence,when he did talk he said my son is spoilt,i asked him what his problem was and he didnt answer
now im worrying about how things are going to be as my son gets older,one of my brothers sons used to come for tea once a week and my dad had him crying everytime calling him a baby and was nasty to him,he was only 4 at the time and i used to go mental saying u cant act like that towards a 4 year old
my brother is my dads stepson and was like this with him while we were growing up,i just didnt think he would be like this with my kids,
i dont want to fall out with my parents but i cant have him going on like this,i dont no what to do,my OH said he gets one chance and ill have to pack in work if things arnt working out?
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cheesespread · 10/06/2011 11:04
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