It's my DS's 3rd birthday on Saturday and my friend just texted me yesterday to say that there might be a lot of them coming, as her husbands' family was in town (they live abroad). She said that I should let her know if that was a problem and she could put them off. We've never met them.
I said veeeery politely that I'd rather they didn't come as we were stressed about numbers in our tiny house - true. I said if that caused difficulties she should let us know.
But the other reason we'd really rather not have them is that we wanted to keep it just to our family, plus DS's best friends and their parents, all of whom he knows well. It's his first party and I don't want it to be too overwhelming. If we were going to widen the circle, there are a lot of people who'd be higher up our wish-list!
BUT - now she isn't responding to calls or texts so am worried she is really pissed off with me.
So AIBU? I feel like the in-laws could just entertain themselves for two hours. But have I misunderstood kid's party etiquette - is it usually come one, come all? I have to say it has ended up pretty big - 8 kids and 20 adults - so there's an argument that 2 strangers would just get lost in the mix and not be a problem. Also it sounds as though she's already invited them so might be really awkward for her to cancel them.
Thanks!
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to say no to in-laws at DS's birthday party?
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Jane054848 · 03/06/2011 15:34
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