Have namechanged, but I'm a regular. Have only changed because some people in RL know my posting name.
I have been involved on and off for years with this person, never actually together, but we have slept together a number of times etc when neither of us have been in relationships (and one time I'm ashamed of when he was with someone).
We are friends and have been for a long time. I value him in my life and I know he feels the same way about me. This is apart from the fact that we've got a sexual history.
The problem is, he's moved in with someone and really wants me to meet her and go to the house. We have had a better friendship the past year when we haven't been sleeping together and I'm not harbouring feelings about wanting that to continue, but I feel very uncomfortable at the idea of getting to know his girlfriend. I don't mind meeting her in a group setting (we do have some of the same friends) but he seems to really want me to specifically go to see her for a one on one introduction.
I don't really want to go. Like I said, it's just uncomfortable to do that knowing our sexual past. No one knows what has happened with us, so it's not as if I would be sat there with someone who knows about us, I will be introduced as a friend and that's it. She will never be told we were otherwise involved. I'm not desperate for her to know, I just find it weird to be there with her, almost like it's deceiving her. Probably stupid, although I don't know.
So what should I do? Should I just go and sit there awkwardly? I don't know whether to keep putting it off in the hope I might meet her in a group or just try it and hope for the best.
Thanks for any answers I get, I hope I've been descriptive enough, I don't want to do an AIBU by stealth!
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to not want to go to the new house my friend/ex shares with his girlfriend?
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havingadilemma · 29/11/2010 16:55
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