Husband (31) and I (28) are starting to look into bringing some children into our family. We have looked into literally every option there is for creating a family and every last one of them completely terrifies me. I would really appreciate advice from anyone who has any experience with the following:
Adopting from the UK! (where I live) - 1yo-5yo sibling pair. Terrifying because I cannot seem to find any evidence that I might end up with happy healthy children and I am not equipped to deal with RAD or learning/mental disabilities. Sounds cruel, but I have to be realistic.
Adopting an infant from the US via private adoption - Terrifying because it costs around £20,000 and can fall through at any moment if the birth mother changes her mind!
Adopting from China Healthy Children programme - Terrifying because of similar worries regarding RAD and learning disabilities later in life. Also because of expense £20-30,000.
Natural Birth - This is my LEAST favourite option. Episiotomy/tearing makes me physically recoil. I did a google image search...that was not a smart idea. The only way I could even CONSIDER this is with voluntary C-section which carries its own large risks and downsides.
Surrogacy - Not legally enforceable in the UK even if it were my egg and hubby's sperm. Would be akin to private adoption worries but with the added downside of losing a child which is genetically OURS.
If there are options I'm ignoring, or if you have anything to counter-act the overwhelming tide of downsides I'm seeing, that would be helpful. Please no rude or shaming responses.
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PeppermintPixie · 01/04/2015 13:52
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