Met our DC's last Wednesday and it has all been going so, so well! Took them out on our own on Saturday to soft play and it was great fun - did nappy changes out and gave them their tea. We've done naptimes, bathtimes, tantrums, food and it is going much better than we had ever hoped.
Yesterday was our rest day and I was so tearful and missing them!
So today is the first visit here (and will also meet our dog!) with their foster carer and social worker - and I'm panicking more than when we met them last week!
The relationship with the FC is really hard and the time in her house has been a real struggle for a number of reasons which isn't helping.
Been up since 5 and can't eat - is this normal??
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In 1 hour our DC's will visit our home for the first time.....panicking!!
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Ladyofthehouse · 15/10/2012 08:57
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MaryZed ·
15/10/2012 10:28
Oh, coming to this a bit late, I guess they are there already [exciting]
I hope it is going well. And yes, it will be stressful, and their foster care will be feeling a bit strange about it all but remember - it is her job to look after the children and to make their transition to you as easy as possible.
Lovely as most fc's are, these children will be your children and you will be their parents, so just mark time. And be understanding, but also keep an emotional distance.
Let us know how it all goes 
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MaryZed ·
15/10/2012 14:41
At this stage it's sort of "the quicker the better" isn't it? Once you have done everything, it would be great to be able just to get on with it, and cope with whatever happens.
Because no matter how much you prepare you are going to have periods of panic, nights when you can't get them to sleep, baffling afternoons when nothing you do keeps them happy.
It's very like "normal" parenting actually 
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Baaartimaeus ·
15/10/2012 14:42
This is such a lovely thread. You sound like you have so much love for these little girls. You're all so lucky to have each other.
Hope the bedtime goes well, I'll be thinking of you as I'm singing lullabies to my 12-month old for 30 minutes solid tonight to try and get him to sleep 
Lovesoftplay ·
15/10/2012 18:55
This sounds lovely I am a bit jealous of your excitement!!
We had problems in the FC house too, I just felt so intrusive. The 2nd week was so much easier because the boys were in our house. I felt much more like 'mummy' as well which was nice.
Good luck for the rest of your introductions x x
Tryingtothinkofnewsnazzyname ·
15/10/2012 20:30
Wonderful. Soon your DDs will be home with you and will have you as their parents always
Moomoomie ·
15/10/2012 21:30
So glad the intros are going well.
I too had a very difficult relationship with FC of our first two girls, I must admit it made the intros a lot more difficult than it should have been.
Remember, the children are YOURS and before long will be with you forever and ever.
Enjoy the next few days and the rest of your lives together.
Panic is normal.
Devora ·
15/10/2012 23:00
What a lovely post
I had a difficult time with the FC as well - the whole introductions week seemed consumed with her dramas, tears, anger, everyone running round trying to keep her onside - it was infuriating and exhausting but we tried to stay focused on our new dd. It will pass soon enough!
Can't wait to hear the next update.
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