Hi,
I'm very concerned about my DDs already fragile mental health. This has been triggered by the tragic murder of Sarah Everard, but has clearly been a volcano of worries, waiting to erupt.
DD has actually coped remarkably well during what has been an incredibly difficult period, but since going back to school, I've noticed her anxiety levels have shot up and last night she completely broke down after a group chat with some friends about the recent news. DD hadn't actually heard about it and was absolutely devastated. The chat turned into all of the girls talking about how unsafe they felt, which teachers at school gave them the creeps etc.
DD came down to dinner and absolutely crumbled, saying that she can't cope with this as well as everything else. She's just worrying about everything. Covid and another possible wave, climate change and now this.
I tried to explain that the tragic news about Sarah has sparked a general conversation, but she is no less safe today, but how can I explain to her that these sometimes subconscious, protective behaviours that all woman have, are wrong, in the sense that we shouldn't have to do them, but that she still needs to do them at the same time? I found myself contradicting myself with every sentence!
It's just such a difficult conversation to have. An almost impossible balance to strike.
I am just heartbroken for her - for all of them. All this worry. All this fear. It's an absolute overload and is a tragedy in itself.
She sat on my knee last night, which she hasn't done for years, wrapped her arms around my neck so tightly and sobbed and sobbed. At that point there were no words I could give. She just needed to feel safe.
Honestly, I'm broken. How do I help her without scaring her even more?
I know I'm not alone here.
Any advice would be massively appreciated.
TIA
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My 14 year old DD is absolutely terrified. Please help me navigate this
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GnTwithlime · 15/03/2021 13:27
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