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do you get on with your siblings

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busyweeks78 Mon 02-Dec-19 09:43:24

Has your relationship changed as you’ve got older?

x2boys Mon 02-Dec-19 09:56:49

Yes but I don't see her that often ,we go through phases where we are closer and other times not so much ,we do get on very well when we see each other but she's going through a tough time at the moment so I'm trying to make more of an effort

Floralnomad Mon 02-Dec-19 10:00:17

Absolutely , I have 2 older sisters , one is my best friend and we do loads together , chat everyday etc and the other I see regularly and we text . We are all in our 50s and it’s pretty much always been the same .

stucknoue Mon 02-Dec-19 10:02:27

Yes but we live far apart. I see them maybe twice a year, they come to mine for 3-4 days at Christmas usually. Plus I either run into them at our parents (they also live dad from any of us or sometimes we book a whole family trip somewhere.

stophuggingme Mon 02-Dec-19 10:03:57

Sadly no and not through any choice or act on my part.
I have a younger sister who has turned her back on me, betrayed me and accused me of dreadful things as well as calling my children and myself cunts.

I was like a second mother to her for so much of her life until she didn’t need me anymore and then I was first cast aside subsequently actively despised

It has been a source of huge sadness pretty much the last eight years of my life. But I have just had to learn to live with it.

user1493413286 Mon 02-Dec-19 10:04:56

I speak to mine every day and we’re very close; if we weren’t sisters I doubt we’d be friends but she’s closer than a best friend

Ragwort Mon 02-Dec-19 10:08:09

Not especially, no major fallings out but we are just very different sorts of people, probably only meet up 1 or 2 times a year, the occasional text or chat on the phone.

nocluewhattodoo Mon 02-Dec-19 10:11:10

We get along but don't really care about one another. We only talk/see one another at family events a few times a year despite living in the same city, its all just surface level politeness. But my whole family is like that really, I find it really upsetting, especially as my two closest friends have close and loving relationships with their parents and siblings and I've spent enough time with them to really see the lack in my own family.

WooMaWang Mon 02-Dec-19 10:23:49

No. I have one sister. We have never been close, even as children. We live several hours apart and never see each other.

I think my sister would like more of a relationship with me (she angles for it) but that's part of the overall pattern. She's a nightmare, behaves badly and expects everyone to put up with it/it not to affect how anyone sees her. After a childhood of her being difficult and being made to put up with her behaviour and attitude (great parenting there, my parents), I just cannot be bothered. So I pretty much ignore her.

jay55 Mon 02-Dec-19 10:40:23

We didn't always growing up, 6 year age gap meant I was the annoying little sister for a long time.
As adults we get along very well, we only see each other a few times a year but text frequently and know we can count on each other when we need someone.

PotteryWheel Mon 02-Dec-19 10:43:23

We get on perfectly well, but have all lived in different countries for our entire adult lives, and aren't in contact much. Side-effect of a very overcrowded, impoverished childhood which saw us crammed together in a tiny space where there simple weren't enough resources for everyone. As adults, we've all become people who like their personal space, and several have chosen not to have children.

CMOTDibbler Mon 02-Dec-19 10:45:39

No. Never have really, for no specific reason. I see my brother maybe once every two years if we happen to cross over at my parents (we both live far from them), and would only communicate with him if theres an issue with our parents

Hoppinggreen Mon 02-Dec-19 10:46:38

NC with my brother, he is a carbon copy of our father unfortunately

sanityisamyth Mon 02-Dec-19 10:53:51

No. One of them spent many years of our childhood trying to kill me. My youngest sister was too young to understand (and I took the brunt to protect her) and chooses to prefer my other sister. I don't speak to either of them and my mental health is considerably improved as a result.

Notso Mon 02-Dec-19 10:54:28

Yes. My sister drives me crackers sometimes but she's fantastic and I love her.
I wish we lived nearer to each other.

WhatHaveIFound Mon 02-Dec-19 10:54:53

My sister and I tollerate each other. We never had a great relationship growing up and then she moved overseas so i keep in touch with news of our parents' health issues.

She's not interested in me, my life or DC (and never has been) and only emails me when she has something to boast about.

It's all a bit crap really and it's not a relationship I'd like to see my own DC have.

FthisS Mon 02-Dec-19 10:57:40

No. My brother is 12 years older and is a violent selfish pervert. My sister is 5 years older and is a bully who doesn't have any compassion. I don't speak to any of my family and am happier for it.

cookiemonster5 Mon 02-Dec-19 11:01:06

Nope. I'm NC with my older brother. Never really got on. I tried and loved him when we were little but he always resented having a sibling.

He wants all the attention on him and he is the greatest of all time yet accuses me of trying to be centre of attention. Yeah coz someone with crippling social anxiety really courts attention and focus you moron.

He was always hard done by and suffered worst of all. He wants the good parts of family without any of the bad parts or the responsibility that comes with your actions.

Going NC was really easy tbh. He never bothered with me or my kids so all I had to do was nothing at all lol. Feel sorry for his kids because they are the ones missing out as we are their only family but they are being fed lies from him and his wife. When they are old enough they can decide for themselves.

Life is happier without his drama.

2beautifulbabs Mon 02-Dec-19 11:20:07

Yes I get on with my DB but like most we live 2.5 hours away so only see each other occasionally but when we do we have a laugh and still joke and tease each other

trevthecat Mon 02-Dec-19 11:25:34

I'm the eldest of 3 girls. We're all very close. We speak daily. Our kids are all close. Our partners all find it a bit overbearing!

Livpool Mon 02-Dec-19 11:52:47

Not at all.

My brother doesn't speak to anyone in the family unless he wants something. I leave him to it

WheresMyChocolate Mon 02-Dec-19 11:59:48

Haven't had contact with any of my siblings for almost 6 years now. I haven't heard from the eldest for 45 years. You could say we're not close.

Icanflyhigh Mon 02-Dec-19 12:01:07

I have a brother and a sister.

Get on fine with my brother and his wife, don't see them very often but when we do, it's always a lovely catch up and we have a laugh.

Haven't had anything to do with my sister for almost 4 years now. She's a toxic bitch who has always been eaten up with jealousy and hatred since we were children.

She was alcoholic for a long time and always blamed everything on being pissed. She's been on the waggon for 7 ish years now and cant blame the alcohol for her toxicity, but it hasn't changed or lessened. And my life is much more pleasant without her in it.

Damntheman Mon 02-Dec-19 12:10:50

I'm very close to my little sister and two of my brothers, I'm pretty close to the next brother up. One other brother died and I'm not that close with my other brother and sister but we get along just fine when we meet up. Just don't communicate in between smile

My little sister and I used to fight a ton, but the relationship has matured since we both hit thirty and I love her to bits. I've always gotten along pretty well with my brothers.

Damntheman Mon 02-Dec-19 12:11:45

Come to think of it I think we all get along with each other. I don't know of any sibling who actively doesn't get along with one or more of the rest of us. My oldest sister is perhaps the most cold and distant of us all, but again she gets along just fine with us when we meet up.

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