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Would you quit? I'm so torn.

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WhatNoNotYouAgain Mon 19-Aug-19 07:43:00

My job is slowly driving me insane. I'm under qualified for it (long story but I was basically internally promoted because our CE could not be arsed to go out to recruit). But the main problem is there is no decent leadership and no proper planning. This is not likely to change any time soon. I am contracted for four days but I am working every day along with most evenings and weekends at the moment. If it was any other job I'd walk but:

1) it's very very flexible. I mostly work from home, my hours are flexible, I can have a sick DC at home if needed.

2) it's much better paid than similar jobs in the same sector.

My DH is the main breadwinner (in a job he enjoys) - I don't technically "need" to work but I desperately want to to have financial independence and bring in some more money. However, I am so stressed and feel myself burning out.

WIBU to quit and find something else even though I'd be taking a big pay cut?

MrsMozartMkII Mon 19-Aug-19 07:45:34

Money or sanity.

You're lucky that you have the choice.

Cwtches123 Mon 19-Aug-19 07:49:58

Why burn yourself out just to prove you can be financially independent?
There are other jobs!

WhatNoNotYouAgain Mon 19-Aug-19 07:53:00

It's not about proving anything!

AmIThough Mon 19-Aug-19 07:59:31

Why are you working so much? Is it because you want to or because you need to?

Is it possible to just do your 4 days without the evenings and weekends?
If so, would you then feel happier?

stoplickingthetelly Mon 19-Aug-19 08:01:50

How old are your children? Flexibility is really important with young children and a lot of my friends struggle when children are ill, have inset days etc. Especially the ones who live away from grandparents. Your mental health is obviously really important though. Could you stick it out until dc could be left on their own?

RJnomore1 Mon 19-Aug-19 08:02:06

Can you get the qualification you should have? Would it help with your workload?

I’d be wary of dropping salary for a job you might find just as stressful, particuaround childcare.

twoheaped Mon 19-Aug-19 08:05:55

Why are you working at home when you're off work?
Because you've failed to do what you should do in the time given, or because you feel you should do more?

If it's the latter, change your mindset.

Some people put massive pressure on themselves, to the detriment of their health, to do xyz when really nobody would bat an eyelid if x & y were done and z was done when time allowed.

WhatNoNotYouAgain Mon 19-Aug-19 08:07:19

Some people put massive pressure on themselves, to the detriment of their health, to do xyz when really nobody would bat an eyelid if x & y were done and z was done when time allowed

It is absolutely not that. It is because a) I'm doing the job of two people and b) because the CE is also under qualified and doesn't do any of the things charity CEs usually do, so it falls to me.

WhatNoNotYouAgain Mon 19-Aug-19 08:08:23

Can you get the qualification you should have

Not without a lot of time and expense. I'm expected, for instance, to do all contracts from scratch. I have zero training or experience in that.

WhatNoNotYouAgain Mon 19-Aug-19 08:08:59

*Is it possible to just do your 4 days without the evenings and weekends?
If so, would you then feel happier?*

No, because I wouldn't be able to keep on top of my workload.

WhatNoNotYouAgain Mon 19-Aug-19 08:09:49

I’d be wary of dropping salary for a job you might find just as stressful, particuaround childcare

I get you but I've never found any of my previous roles anywhere near as stressful, that's the truth.

Summersunshine2 Mon 19-Aug-19 08:10:21

Have you discussed this with your bosses?
If a company is badly run from the top it always will be.

flapjackfairy Mon 19-Aug-19 08:12:21

Stop doing their job ! Just do your own and let the organisation see that the boss isn't up to it .

WhatNoNotYouAgain Mon 19-Aug-19 08:13:28

Have you discussed this with your bosses?

Multiple times. Unfortunately the CE and Chair are friends and as ineffective as each other.

AmIThough Mon 19-Aug-19 08:13:46

If you always do the work of two people they will just expect that two people aren't required.

You need to take a step back and not complete everything - tell your bosses there's too much work and they need to employ and additional person.

underneaththeash Mon 19-Aug-19 08:15:38

It's at least worth a chat with the CE. List everything you're doing and how many hours it's all taking and ask what can be given to someone else (i.e. him). Otherwise you need to get an assistant, or at least be paid for 5 days.

Countrylifeornot Mon 19-Aug-19 08:17:08

Ask for a formal minuted meeting. Explain that your job is impossible in the time allocated. Explain that you'll be doing as much as you can in 4 days and bat the rest back to the CE or whomever else they tel you to.
When you can't manage the work load keep referring back to your meeting.
What's the worst that can happen? They can't put you on performance review for not achieving unrealistic targets.

WhatNoNotYouAgain Mon 19-Aug-19 08:17:24

It's a charity. You can't just add on an extra person unless there is funding to do so. There isn't. (there should have been, but that is a whole other story).

I am essentially running the entire financial, governance, HR and operational function of the organisation. With no input or oversight from the CE.

EleanorReally Mon 19-Aug-19 08:20:16

Can you search for training that would benefit you?

flashingbeacon Mon 19-Aug-19 08:20:23

What would happen if you didn’t do it all though? Would anyone come to harm or would it just be a disaster for the organisation?

Because if you keep doing it nothing will ever change. Maybe if things start failing you can force a change.

newyork2017 Mon 19-Aug-19 08:20:49

If they really aren't listening to you then I would be honest and tell them you are going to look for something else. Sounds like they won't want to lose you so hopefully might make some adjustments &take some of the strain. If not you've then forced yourself out of the current indecision & you go & look for something else. If money isn't an issue then don't put up with it.
any longer OP.

Butterymuffin Mon 19-Aug-19 08:20:58

So email him that and say he will need to do more, in the absence of any extra staff, because you can't. And then stop doing things.

you always do the work of two people they will just expect that two people aren't required

This.

SayNoToCarrots Mon 19-Aug-19 08:21:07

Are you being paid overtime for all this work you are doing outside your contracted hours?

WhatNoNotYouAgain Mon 19-Aug-19 08:23:04

Haha, overtime. No. It's a charity. You get utterly pointless TOIL.

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