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I have been with DP for 4 years. We always have a great time at Xmas, my parents and his parents get on, we eat lots, drink lots, have a laugh etc. All good.
This year DMs DM is very poorly and it may be her last Xmas. I'm not close to DGM. Since I left home 18 years ago I have visited a couple times a year. She's a nice lady, but we have very opposing views on most things. Visits consist of small talk, avoiding politics, religious views, morals etc.
My DP has never met DGM. His views are even further away from hers. Think Trump and Corbin having Xmas lunch together trying to make polite chit chat. DGM is very vocal about her views. I have learned to smile and nod.
DM wants us all to go to DGMs for Xmas Day. Including me and DP. Since GM is very unwell and it will likely be her last Xmas.
It will likely be awkward and uncomfortable. Like I said, we have never been close or seen much of each other. DP and I live 250 miles away.
Should we go? It feels like it would be for the sake of appearances. I don't think DGM enjoys my company, and don't think she would like DPs much either. We will all be sitting awkwardly making small talk (with no help from a stiff drink) until DGM falls asleep in front of the tv. We would be doing it because it would be considered the "right thing to do".
I know that's brutally honest and may sound cold. I know some people have great loving relationships with GP. We have never had that. It would feel a bit of a farce.
What DP actually want to do is go to a party we've been invited to that would be great fun. I would pop over to see DGM before Xmas.
What would you do?
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Dilemma251217 · 09/11/2017 18:51
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