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REALLY fed up with work

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mehdismummy · 28/04/2008 15:34

some of you know that my work situation has been rubbish for a while, i currently have a first and final warning on my file due to what i think a harsh judgement. i only work three nights a week from 7 till 1 am but that is enough for me. i am kept out of nanagement loop alot and often just end up coming down to a pub that is a complte shithole and short staffed. last sunday i was left yet again to close the pub with two staff. there is a girl who was working that night who finished at ten. she offered to sit and wrap cutlery and i said that i would give her one of the glasses of wine i had been brought (staff are no longer allowed to drink at work due to high stock losses) soshe did that and took wine upstairs (she lives on site) the next thing i find out is the manager and his right hand man(i use the ternm loosely) have questioned her saying had i bullied her? why did i give her free wine? and the manager had left a note for everyone in the office to see saying rob to speak to julie regarding giving free wine etc. i am really pissed off and all the am bleats on about is how the pub is not performing, how the stocks are, about my performance etc. i have asked for a transfer but all the seem to want to do is shift blame. what shall i do?

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mehdismummy · 04/05/2008 19:22

thanks so so much for your help at this hard time. I am so so grateful for you taking time out to help me. Gonna go to dr tuesday even if i have to make an emergency appointment.

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flowerybeanbag · 04/05/2008 18:55

mehdismummy at the moment you've not actually spoken to your boss so if they phone you should speak to them at this stage if you can - a text message isn't really good enough.

Is there no way you can see your GP sooner than Thursday? That's more than a week after you first phoned in. If you are going to be signed off with stress you should really get it done as soon as possible, so that you are 'officially' medically not fit for work.

Until you've spoken to someone and/or got a proper medical certificate, do answer the phone, but don't discuss anything. Explain that you are off with work-related stress and are going to see the doctor for a medical certificate but if anyone tries to discuss work issues, don't do so. If you can see a doctor sooner, great, get a proper medical certifcate, get it into work, send it recorded delivery to ensure it gets there and to the right person, and then once that's done, you can avoid calls for a while.

mehdismummy · 04/05/2008 16:58

thanks flowery. Do i have to answer their calls whilst off? I phoned in on wed to let them know i would not be in the following week but the message was not passed on. I told them again i was not coming in again on sat. And then through me hassling them i was eventually told i had to ring the manager. By then i had about ten pence on my phone so i text him telling him that i had no credit and i would not be into work as i felt under increasing pressure and i felt bullied. And it was making me suffer panic attacks. I am going to see my own gp on thursday but should i get a sick note before then. And should i answer calls from work? Sorry for all the questions!

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flowerybeanbag · 03/05/2008 19:18

mehdismummy they shouldn't be asking you to come in for meetings or anything while you are off, no, but they can do other 'investigating' if they like.

mehdismummy · 02/05/2008 19:07

FLOWERY can they hold investigations etc whilst i am signed off?
as i said before area manager has said that she cant see how i can be stressed after only working 16 hrs a week

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elkiedee · 01/05/2008 22:21

I don't know anything about the rent deposit scheme but will try to look it up if I get a chance tomorrow. I assume it's some alternative to proper Council housing since none of our three biggest political parties really believe in that any more...

mehdismummy · 01/05/2008 22:08

hi babe, apparently the council are gonna look at my bank statments but have agreed in principal to the rent deposit scheme. i am a bit baffled to why and what happens now so any advice will be greatly recieved
give danny a big kiss from us too, currently staying with ss so will let you know when we get back probably sat

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elkiedee · 01/05/2008 21:35

mm, sorry that you're going through all this.

At least most of us after work can get right away from it, given that your home life isn't much fun either and you're still in the same place, no wonder you're stressed.

Glad to hear you've had some good news from the Council, is there a chance they might be able to help you with housing?

Say hi to your lovely ds from Danny and me!

mehdismummy · 01/05/2008 20:03

thanks will do it now

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lovemyshoes · 01/05/2008 19:50

If you ever want to talk about 'work' etc, feel free to cat me, AND, one of my best mates sort of works in the same industry as you and I may be able to bend her ear for advice etc

mehdismummy · 01/05/2008 19:49

hi good for you lovemyshoes. i never did not stick up for myself. i treated everyone good and with respect. apparently they are holding an investigation into 'winegate' but i called in sick today, so investigate away, also good news from council today

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lovemyshoes · 01/05/2008 19:41

Hi mehdimummy, just wanted to come back and check how things are with you.

I've had a terrible day, done nothing but argue all day with the managers and instead of talking it out, I am the mere woman, and they walk off instead of discussing things with me

On a better note, a couple of my colleagues have asked why I've changed, etc, speak my mind, and I told them point blank, I was fed up of getting shit on, it is making me ill and from now on, if I don't agree, I will speak my mind. Hence, shocked faces all round.

mehdismummy · 01/05/2008 14:12

hi rang work to tell them that i was not gonna be in next week and was told i am under investigation for 'winegate' the girl i gave it to backed me up when i was last there and now i bet you she has been made to change her mind. she was sleeping with the pub manager and holds a torch for him still. it seems they are just finding things to investigate me for, at leat if i am not there i cant be accused of anything, i know they are gonna try to contact me but i am not gonna answer calls from them, h just says not to quit, thats the worse thing i can do

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mehdismummy · 01/05/2008 12:03

thanks flowery gonna do that, however the last time i mentioned it to the AM she was wondering how i could be stressed when i only work 16 hrs a week, have tried to tell her how thing are but she is either busy or people hanging about. tbh i dont think holding a meeting in a pub whilst customers are there is good.

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flowerybeanbag · 01/05/2008 10:49

They might well be doing that mehdismummy. I do think though that at the moment you shouldn't be there. They are not (if they know what's good for them) going to do anything to you while you are signed off with work-related stress, so I do think you should do that, get yourself a couple of weeks off at least, then see how you feel about things.

mehdismummy · 30/04/2008 20:29

thanks flowery i just feel like after my "lucky escape" last time they are now trying to manage me out of the pub. they keep talking to other staff asking what i have been up to etc, its soul destroying

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flowerybeanbag · 30/04/2008 15:30

mehdismummy I am here but just checking in, am off again in a minute until tomorrow.

I don't know if you had a specific query but if you are feeling this bad at the thought of work, you should not be there. I know you are concerned about how a further period off sick will be perceived, but there's nothing they can actually do about it unless you're off for ages and ages. I do think bearing everything in mind, your first concern needs to be your health, rather than what they might think or try and do if you are signed off.

Please go and see your GP and tell him/her how you are feeling.

If you did have a specific query about something do post it I will be back tomorrow.

mehdismummy · 30/04/2008 13:18

anyone?

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mehdismummy · 30/04/2008 11:48

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mehdismummy · 30/04/2008 09:17

is flowerybeanbag about?

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mehdismummy · 29/04/2008 16:42

thanks bella

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bellavita · 29/04/2008 16:23

I am for you.

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mehdismummy · 29/04/2008 15:24

hi just looking for a place to live, thats the hardest. my flat comes with the job.

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mehdismummy · 29/04/2008 15:24

hi just looking for a place to live, thats the hardest. my flat comes with the job.

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bellavita · 29/04/2008 14:53

Hey mehidismummy, I have been thinking about you the last couple of days - have not seen you post for a while or have you not been in the same places as me?

I really feel for you and wish you weren't dealt such a raw deal all the time.

Have you looked around for other employment?

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