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Resigning as a nurse

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JEB123 · 20/08/2019 15:00

Hi. After 27 years, I have exhausted all my options! I can’t cope with the pressures anymore, I’m so unhappy and want to take a step back from it all. I had a depressive episode in 2014 which stripped my confidence and left me with anxiety, which i’m sure was the job. I had a 6 month break from nursing and decided to try again! I have had 3 jobs since and fail to settle in all of them. I was in a post 10 years prior to the breakdown, which I loved, but the culture became and still is toxic. I hate the thought of going to work and my mood slides. Has anyone ever given up their pin and become a home carer instead? Advise please will be very welcome.

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SnuggyBuggy · 22/08/2019 07:09

As an Ex-NHS worker I feel for you guys, nursing is such an important job and it seems like nurses are treated like dirt by management.

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Coldhandscoldheart · 22/08/2019 08:48

What do you do now @SnuggyBuggy?

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SnuggyBuggy · 22/08/2019 09:10

I'm a SAHM at the moment. Even before I became pregnant I was contemplating escape. I was in the admin side and thought I'd want to look at progression in time but the pay doesn't increase nearly so fast as the stress. My bosses have all been such unhappy people constantly going off sick and its just put me right off to be honest.

Not really sure what I want out of my working life now, it's honestly all felt like a waste of time. I think realistically I'd like to look for something with better working conditions and more flexibility even if the pay isn't any better. My old job just wasn't worth making any sacrifices over.

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Coldhandscoldheart · 24/08/2019 06:54

Thanks @SnuggyBuggy. That’s one of the options I’m considering, although I admit, I’ll struggle with giving up my wage and pension I think.
I’m trying to see a way forward for my current job that doesn’t involve me having a nervous breakdown.

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SnuggyBuggy · 24/08/2019 07:14

I think you have to try and work out if you can make it better or if it's inevitable that it's going to be awful or not even awful but just not work for you.

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Troels · 24/08/2019 07:29

I left the NHS nearly 3 years ago, before that I had a great job abroad doing district nursing.
The NHS nearly broke me. I've been a nurse since 1982 and never thought I'd ever prefer to crash on the way to work so I didn't have to go in.
I had to get out. I ended up in an EMI Nursing home and love it another place I never thought I'd be able to cope with
We have now started the hiring process of an RMN who has had a fantastic career but totally burned out to the point he quit, and went to an agency to work as a carer. He's enjoyed iit for the last 6 months or so. But after coming to our home as a carer a few times he has applied to come back as an RMN. It's a lot less stress, not stressless, if you can find the right place. I'm earing top band 5 rate of pay and now only work part time.

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nowayhose · 24/08/2019 13:13

I used to be a band 6, back in the days when you were actually valued and progression perfectly possible. Where I worked a sense of teamwork and mutual support was given to any staff or student who came through the door. We supported each other ( doesn't mean we were all great friends, but we respected each other). I was about to be promoted to be one of the first nurse practitioners in the country when I had to leave my job due to family circumstances.

I always wanted to return to nursing but couldn't see how it would be possible as a single mum and a lapsed registration.

Fast forward to now, I regained my registration through the return to nursing course and began working in an acute area (after 12 years out) in a different hospital.

From day one back in nurse uniform I have been expected to perform well beyond the parameters of my current training e.g in acute resuscitation situations (not as one off's) with only Basic Life Support training. Holding a bleep as an emergency responder etc.

When I complained and asked for further training I was made to feel as if I had failed somehow.

I have been bullied and harassed by senior staff (publicly, and in close proximity to senior manager and patient), with absolutely no repercussions for the bullies ( I heard them laughing with the manager afterwards about the incident.)

I am told I am doing things wrong every day (and I am not doing things 'wrongly', I'm just doing them as I have been told to by other staff members).

I have been either micro managed or left totally to my own devices, depending on who I am working with.( and by that I mean I have been left with trying to deal with potentially critically unwell patients without so much as a hcsw or student to help me)

At every single handover the staff coming on shift totally bitch about the ones going off shift, saying they've been lazy or done something wrong. The general gist is that absolutely no-one likes anyone else and there is zero respect for anyone at all ! It's truly horrible.

I am currently off sick due to anxiety and am to see Occupational Health as my 'manager' wants me to leave as apparently I am 'always sick' !

No bloody surprise there !!!!

I'm told it's the same in every part of my area's NHS.

I cannot wait to get out of nursing as it's truly toxic and governed by uncaring management and run by the under trained staff .

I think I can safely say that no amount of 'return' courses or foreign imports for staff will help the ailing NHS, as they do not pay anywhere near enough wages nor employ enough staff numbers for the graduates they employ to do the volume and quality of care demanded. Couple the lack of decent wages with the toxicity and lack of support, no wonder staff are leaving in their droves !

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FormerlyFrikadela01 · 24/08/2019 18:33

if you can find the right place. I'm earing top band 5 rate of pay and now only work part time.

I think part of the problem is people feel trapped in the NHS because of the pension and other benefits.

If I left the NHS it would be to leave nursing altogether... I know I can find good pay in the private sector but I've yet to come across any organisation with comparable benefits (cygnets selling point of always having your birthday off pales when you look at their sickness and maternity policies).

nowayhose sounds like you've had a well shitty time of it. And sadly I do suspect that many of the problems you describe are common in many places.

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Girlintheframe · 25/08/2019 07:02

I gave up nursing following a mental health crisis. Years later I have returned as an HCA and tbh I love it. All the parts I enjoyed about nursing without the continual stress/responsibilities/pressures. Pay is obviously much lower but to me it's worth it to not feel constantly stress/like I'm failing

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