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Extraordinary essay by Julia Long

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MiladyBerserko · 18/06/2021 00:22

A blistering critique of Kathleen Stock's book

I do agree. Being a good girl is not getting us anywhere.

4w.pub/why-feminism-matters-for-feminism/amp/?__twitter_impression=true

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ValancyRedfern · 18/06/2021 14:09

I think it's great we have both voices. I don't agree with JL on the 'everyone can be a lesbian' bit, and I don't agree with some elements of what JL quotes of KS in the article. I have started reading Material Girls and I think it's excellent. It's so clear and lucid at explaining how we've got where we are. It is going to change minds. I think if you've just read JLs essay you might be surprised by how much you like Material Girls.

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Floisme · 18/06/2021 14:23

I'm really resistant any idea that we have to be on one side or the other. I actually think they'd make a good team: Kathleen building the bridge and Julia testing it every inch of the way.

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JediGnot · 18/06/2021 16:10

@OvaHere

I've heard lots of talk about building bridges and finding common ground, but no actual practical examples of how it's possible.

It's all a bit "meet me in the middle says the reasonable man" as he takes a step backwards.

I also started as Stock and became Long. I've listened to and read too much crap from TRAs at this point to be anything other.

Well put.

It is hard to find a middle ground between fantasy and reality, between "no debate, misgendering is literal violence" and "can we have a sensible chat about competing rights?"
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WokeyCokey · 18/06/2021 16:30

@Floisme

I'm really resistant any idea that we have to be on one side or the other. I actually think they'd make a good team: Kathleen building the bridge and Julia testing it every inch of the way.

For me, JL built the bridge that that led KS to have her voice. IIRC JL was talking about and raising this issue for years before KS added her voice. By being loud and visible, she and others made it comparatively safe for KS to speak up.

I first became aware of KS in this arena when she raised objections to how JL and Posie and Venice handled certain things. She has actively spoken out about JL.

So I don’t agree with a PP that KS retweeted JL’s essay because the essay is the view she wishes she’d written; she’s made it clear she has strong views against some of JL’s position. But RTing the essay still serves an important purpose for her, whether that was her motivation in doing it or not: at least I’m not HER, look how reasonable I am in comparison.
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IntoAir · 18/06/2021 16:31

it's pointless to turn our fire on each other over disagreements about tactics and emphasis.

Yup. Feminism is (and should be) a broad church.

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Tibtom · 18/06/2021 18:05

@IntoAir

it's pointless to turn our fire on each other over disagreements about tactics and emphasis.

Yup. Feminism is (and should be) a broad church.

"turning fire on" is one thing but being open to critical analysis and discussion is quite another. In order to strengthen arguments and sharpen out thoughts, we have to welcome this. We do not need to agree either. Debate is vital.
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Floisme · 18/06/2021 19:30

I agree. I think it's important to keep putting your ideas under scrutiny. Besides Kathleen Stock is a philosopher - ideas and disagreement are her livelihood surely?

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CharlieParley · 18/06/2021 19:30

I'm reading (and enjoying) Kathleen Stock's Material Girls. It is a clear, engagingly written and easy-to-follow exploration of how we got here. I would recommend it to anyone interested in this topic.

And I have a number of serious issues with the book. I'm missing the feminist analysis of late-onset transsexualism and what it means for women and women's rights that the majority of male transgender individuals belong to this group who have very different needs and life trajectories from homosexual transsexuals. Especially since it is the latter group whose needs and life trajectories are used to argue for access to female-only provisions, access that is then also enjoyed by the former group with more serious consequences for women.

It matters that KS dismisses the feminist critique of the former group's behaviour, demands, motivations and their impact on women as mere man-hating and unkindness. For a feminist analysis it is vital to understand that transgenderism is not just one thing and that the trans community is made up out of a number of different groups with distinct needs and interests. This is not a matter of good trans vs bad trans or fake vs real, in my view there is no such thing. But the fact that we are dealing with distinct groups matters for our approach to the solutions we might suggest and/or accept. That KS is not only silent on the much larger group, but condemns feminist writers who do acknowledge that group, analyse the group's demands and explain why those are bad for women, is something that does not tally with a pro-women stance in my view.

It also matters that KS asks for compromise. Compromise from where we are now. Which means giving up even more ground, when the ground we have already lost is desperately needed and should be reclaimed for women and women's rights.

But I do welcome this book, because I welcome a plurality of opinion and I hope that we will have many more feminist writers publishing their own, different analysis.

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IntoAir · 18/06/2021 20:02

"turning fire on" is one thing but being open to critical analysis and discussion is quite another. In order to strengthen arguments and sharpen out thoughts, we have to welcome this. We do not need to agree either. Debate is vital.

Totally agree. But I've seen/heard some (almost snide) personal comments about individuals being made in some discussions IRL.

I suppose that it's inevitable, when various people, all involved in activism for the same aims, get varying degrees of exposure, praise, and status, and others don't. Sadly so, but we're all only human.

I'd say that Stock's approach is one which will get broad popular support, and that is of value. If women start with the "Stock approach" and move to the "Long approach" - as PP here have said has happened to them - that is no reason to ditch or undermine the "Stock approach." It may not be as radical as you'd want it to be, but it serves an important purpose. And doesn't need throwing out completely.

As ever, John Stuart Mill is good here: he talks about thinking, progress, and debate proceeding by partial truths. No single position is wholly right or true: we proceed by combining and synthesising partial truths.

(In his essays on "Bentham" & "Coleridge").

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Mollyollydolly · 18/06/2021 20:20

@PandorasMailbox

Put it this way. I started out as Stock and have become Long.

Yes same.
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CardinalLolzy · 19/06/2021 00:30

I started out as Stock, after rejecting Jonathan Aitken and Dennis Waterman.

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Stopthisnow · 19/06/2021 02:45

I agree with Julia Long, naming males as men is not a ‘hard line’, ‘extreme’ or ‘unkind’, it is allowing others to framing it as if it is, that is the problem imo, and why things have gotten as bad as they have.

I don’t buy that Stock is just trying to appeal to the mainstream, one can do that by highlighting how unreasonable it is to be expected to be a participant in someone’s fantasy, and pointing out that AGP is harmful to women in many ways. Most people don’t want to be a (often unwitting) participant in someone’s fetish, It is not difficult to appeal to the mainstream once that is explained. I think it is more that she wants to appeal to her colleagues in academia, and wants to appear reasonable to them, and not like those mean radical feminists.

Stock could have refrained from trying to paint radical feminist’s analysis as ‘extreme’, ‘simplistic’ and without ‘facts’. She could have chosen to actually address the points that radical feminist’s analysis raises. For example, she never actually offers a counter argument to Sheila Jeffreys’ analysis of AGP, just dismisses it as ‘simplistic’ and imo tries to manipulate women into thinking they have common cause with AGP men. I think radical feminist analysis is inconvenient for Stock, as it seems to me she cannot counter the actual arguments, so resorts to dismissing the arguments as simplistic and mean and imploring people to ‘be kind’. I suspect this is the reason texts like Janice Raymond’s Transexual Empire or other important radical feminist texts are not mentioned.

By choosing to try to appeal to her colleagues in academia, Stock chose to throw radical feminists under the bus, as in reality the radical feminist position is not the extreme position she portrays it as at all. Unless of course one thinks it’s unreasonable or extreme for women to enact and maintain strong healthy boundaries with men, by refusing to participate in a male’s fiction. I doubt most people would find that unreasonable if it was explained in that way. I think Stock took advantage of the fact that the word ‘radical’ is associated with extreme in people’s minds, when in reality the word radical in radical feminism means root, getting to the root of the problem. By painting radical feminists who refuse to call males women as simplistic, unkind and extreme, it allowed her to discredit radical feminists, while also enabling her to avoid addressing the substance of the arguments.

It seems to me Stock chose to downplay the harms of AGP, and throw those who advocate for strong boundaries with men under the bus, in order to appeal to her colleagues in academia. I think this article about DARVO can explain why Stock has taken the position she has, if one keeps in mind that narcissistic abuse, such as coercive control and DARVO are rampant in academia currently:

‘betrayal blindness is a survival mechanism that arises “when awareness would threaten necessary relationships.”’

‘In other words, bystanders yield to betrayal blindness in the interest of looking out for themselves and to avoid the loss or pain they might risk if they sympathized with the target.
They assign more value to their relationship with the abuser so it follows that it’s in their best interest to empathize with the narcissist not with the survivor.
In fact, in many cases bystanders may stand to gain more social capital if they lend their support to the narcissist. So it is usually a combination of greed for gain and an instinct for self-preservation that eclipses any ethical or moral considerations in the bystander.
In other words, members of the clique adapt to conflict within the group by “turning a blind eye,” to the harmful behaviors of the narcissist.’

www.narcissisticabuserehab.com/darvo/?amp

I also agree with Angela Wild’s response to Stock’s book.

lesbianandgaynews.com/2021/06/book-review-by-angela-wild-a-radfem-response-to-kathleen-stocks-material-girls/

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ZuttZeVootEeeVro · 19/06/2021 08:22

Fantastic analysis, Stopthisnow

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Floisme · 19/06/2021 09:40

I'm interested in a critique of Stock's viewpoint and I think it's valid and important to make one. I don't think speculating about her motivations is particularly helpful.

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SapphosRock · 19/06/2021 09:53

I agree with Stock that it is simplistic (and untrue) to label all trans women as AGP. It comes across to me as quite bigoted.

It's like when people used to claim all lesbians has been abused or had bad experiences with men which had caused them to become lesbians.

The transgender experience is much more complex than getting a thrill out of wearing women's clothes.

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QuentinBunbury · 19/06/2021 10:34

The transgender experience is much more complex than getting a thrill out of wearing women's clothes.
I think AGP is much more than that. Its a real shame its not possible to discuss it on here because there are some brilliant, sensitive analyses of AGP by trans women who suffer with it. I have a lot of empathy for them and want to support them. However this blanket denial or minimisation of AGP as a "fetish" means it can't be discussed which reduces understanding and must engender a lot of shame in men who have it.

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ZuttZeVootEeeVro · 19/06/2021 10:45

Accusing others of exaggerating the number of male transpeople with AGP is good way to shut down discussion about the harm AGP does to women and children.

Rather than talking about the impact on women and girls, we have to agree the percentage of male transpeople who are motivated by AGP?

The effects are the same, feminist analysis shouldn't dismiss it even if only a small number of AGP males exist.

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Grellbunt · 19/06/2021 10:50

@ZuttZeVootEeeVro

Accusing others of exaggerating the number of male transpeople with AGP is good way to shut down discussion about the harm AGP does to women and children.

Rather than talking about the impact on women and girls, we have to agree the percentage of male transpeople who are motivated by AGP?

The effects are the same, feminist analysis shouldn't dismiss it even if only a small number of AGP males exist.

Exactly
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CharlieParley · 19/06/2021 15:38

@SapphosRock

I agree with Stock that it is simplistic (and untrue) to label all trans women as AGP. It comes across to me as quite bigoted.

It's like when people used to claim all lesbians has been abused or had bad experiences with men which had caused them to become lesbians.

The transgender experience is much more complex than getting a thrill out of wearing women's clothes.

But that is where Stock is wrong. First of all, radical feminists do not label all males who identify as women as AGP. Otherwise they wouldn't insist that making special allowances or blanket exceptions for homosexual transsexuals is not considering the needs of all women and girls either. Secondly, radical feminists rightly point out that those with AGP make up the vast majority of male transgender people, regardless of whether Stock is willing to acknowledge this or not.
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Stopthisnow · 19/06/2021 22:58

‘I'm interested in a critique of Stock's viewpoint and I think it's valid and important to make one.’

The problem is we are limited in how we can critique her viewpoint on this site.

’I don't think speculating about her motivations is particularly helpful.’

I think offering an explanation of why someone takes the position they do can sometimes be helpful.

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Stopthisnow · 19/06/2021 23:08

‘I agree with Stock that it is simplistic (and untrue) to label all trans women as AGP. It comes across to me as quite bigoted.’

’The transgender experience is much more complex than getting a thrill out of wearing women's clothes.’

No one has said all males who identify as women are AGP, though according to the psychologist who coined the term AGP Dr Ray Blanchard, when asked in an interview about the numbers of AGP males he said: ‘The proportion had reached 75 percent by 2010, and it might be even higher now.’

quillette.com/2019/11/06/what-is-autogynephilia-an-interview-with-dr-ray-blanchard/


No radical feminist analysis labels all males who claim to be women as AGP. For example, if one has read Sheila Jeffreys’ books such as Gender Hurts, Unpacking Queer Politics or Beauty and Misogyny they would see that she is well aware there are different groups of males who identify as women, and that her books also provide an analysis of why women identify as men. Sheila’s analysis clearly states why the idea one can change sex is harmful to women, children and homosexuals (particularly lesbians) and it is nothing to do with ‘bigotry’. Many feminists including Julia Long, have also provided radical feminist analysis of why including males in the definition of woman is a violation of female boundaries and is harmful to women, again it is nothing to do with ‘bigotry’. In short radical feminist’s analysis of gender ideology is focused on how it harms females, it is nothing to do with ‘bigotry’. The problem is radical feminist analysis is not addressed by people who wish to discredit it, instead it is either misrepresented by people saying ‘you are saying all are AGP’ etc., or it is dismissed as ‘simplistic’, ‘man-hating’ or ‘unkind’. No actual rebuttal to the analysis is ever provided.

It's like when people used to claim all lesbians has been abused or had bad experiences with men which had caused them to become lesbians.

It is nothing like this at all, I am a lesbian, in the early to mid 2010’s I become aware of the fact that males were saying they were lesbians, when I was looking to join various groups for lesbians. I was shocked that instead of giving males who claim to be lesbians short shrift, as we had always done, some people were actually taking them seriously. This has led to lesbian women like me having no lesbian groups/spaces to join that can be guaranteed to be free of men. These are precisely the reasons I become involved in this issue. Therefore, I consider it manipulative to compare male’s behaviour to the lesbophobia lesbians ourselves experience, as many of us consider what these males are doing to be a continuation of the same lesbophobia we have always experienced, as lesbians who say no to men.

I view both your argument comparing the lesbophobia lesbians have experienced to AGP men, and Stock’s comparing women internalising their own oppression to AGP men, as being highly manipulative. Both arguments use false equivalencies, that function to elicit sympathy from lesbians and women in general, for men who are harming us. That is not to say I believe all people who make these false equivalencies are being deliberately manipulative, I think some people do genuinely believe what they are saying, but the results are the same regardless. I do find it very disappointing though to say the least, to see some lesbian women using these kinds of false equivalency arguments, regardless of if they are aware of their manipulative effect or not. The point is lesbians and women in general should never be manipulated into feeling sympathy for males whose behaviour is harming us, such sympathy once invoked is then used to benefit males to our own detriment, it is completely unethical imo.

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Floisme · 20/06/2021 08:58

I think offering an explanation of why someone takes the position they do can sometimes be helpful.

It can be. But in this case, where you see 'explanation', I see speculation.
I don't know whether or not you know Stock personally but, even if you do, I have no way of verifying what you said.

I think some of the points you've made are interesting. They made me listen. But I stopped listening when you veered off into conjecture about her motivation and a side swipe at her character. I think it's going for the player instead of the ball.

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MiladyBerserko · 20/06/2021 09:27

I absolutely will comment on Stock's motivations when she proposes the 'True Trans' argument as a reasonable position for women.

No. Sex cannot be changed. No operation changes this fact.

She knows this. She choose to take what she probably thinks is the most likely popular view.

I believe she is self serving, self promoting opportunist and I am certainly not going to bow to her interpretation of feminism.

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Floisme · 20/06/2021 09:34

Why not stick to commenting on Stock's ideas and arguments then?
I was interested in those points but I'm not interested in Stock's motivations or whether or not she's a nice person. I don't know her and I don't care.

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