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Daughter's book...

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EachDubh · 07/11/2020 22:05

I know I am reading to much into this and perhaps missing the celebrating difference and diversity here but.... I don't think I can read this book with the eyes of innocence anymore. 😂😂

Dd got her p1 bookbag (5 year old gifts of books etc in Scottish schools). The books ares elected, written especially for the book bag scheme and are lovely. But this book got me thinking.

Brenda is a sheep!
Page 1- these are sheep, pic of sheep.
Page 2- this is also a sheep, this sheep is called Brenda. Brenda has a nice wooly jumper, pic of wolf in wooly jumper.
Page 3- Brenda does all the things sheep do... Next page -.. Because Brenda is a sheep. Obviously lots of repetative languagebto help with reading.
It goes on to say the other aheep think Brenda is the best sheep, Brenda is planning to eat the sheep but they plan a special feast and Brenda doesn't eat them because they are her friends and kind.

My mind is telling the sheep to run away and stay safe, kindness won't always keep you safe, be kind but also be aware.

Am I mad?

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EachDubh · 08/11/2020 19:09

Well 5 year old requested it tonight, we talked a lot about what we saw and what we read being very different.
Her response to Brenda

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ThatIsNotMyUsername · 08/11/2020 19:30

Haha - good kid!

HecatesCats · 08/11/2020 20:01

@EachDubh

Well 5 year old requested it tonight, we talked a lot about what we saw and what we read being very different. Her response to Brenda
GrinGrinGrin
DreadPirateLuna · 08/11/2020 20:04

Reminds me of Zootopia, which was all about predators and prey getting along. Cutsie message so long as you don't think too much about it. But what are the predators going to eat? And shouldn't the prey maintain some cautiousness for their own safety?

Wolves can't digest grass and Brenda will starve unless she gets a more substantial meal soon.

Canwecancel2020 · 08/11/2020 22:18

I much prefer the subtle tension between daddy pig and mr wolf.

NewlyGranny · 08/11/2020 22:33

Hard to credit that this book is up for an award - perhaps an email or two or more to the body granting awards is in order here? Who better to alert them than the protective mums (and grannies) of MN?

DisappearingGirl · 08/11/2020 22:34

I much prefer the subtle tension between daddy pig and mr wolf.

Ha! Yes I love that episode

DisappearingGirl · 08/11/2020 22:37

I wonder what the author thinks the parent ought to say if the child asks "Is Brenda really a sheep?". Genuine question! How would the author answer this?

HecatesCats · 08/11/2020 22:50

@Canwecancel2020

I much prefer the subtle tension between daddy pig and mr wolf.
GrinGrinGrin
Regularsizedrudy · 08/11/2020 22:57

...I’m pretty sure it’s a joke. “Brenda is a sheep” “haha no she’s not those silly sheep are going to get eaten” “oh look they all have tea instead because this is a children’s book and it’s hardly likely to end with a mass slaughter” type thing. Mumsnet really need to calm down with the antitrans stuff. It ain’t that deep.

NewlyGranny · 09/11/2020 06:51

Back to Little Red Riding Hood for me, where children can learn about why some people disguise themselves to look harmless. 😉

HecatesCats · 09/11/2020 09:27

**Mumsnet really need to calm down

“Calm down dear!”

YetAnotherSpartacus · 09/11/2020 10:17

The message perpetrated in this book goes beyond the 'trans debate' - as the previous comment about Red-Riding Hood attests to.

Alicethroughtheblackmirror · 09/11/2020 13:27

I agrees with YetAnotherSpartacus, this isn't about trans, it's about basic safeguarding messages of the sort that children's books are often used to convey.

The message here is that if you are kind and give the bad person / wolf lots of love and adulation, they might decide not to hurt you.

EmpressJKRowlingSpartacus · 09/11/2020 13:54

The message here is that if you are kind and give the bad person / wolf lots of love and adulation, they might decide not to hurt you.

And if they do, it must be your fault for not being kind enough.

Kantastic · 09/11/2020 14:06

wtf @ at the deletions in this thread! Will I be deleted for referring to the deletions? I'm so confused.

It's a parenting website, but strategies for counteracting the harmful and dangerous messages in this book aren't on-topic?
Especially as it's a book that's been distributed by the government, so "just don't buy the book" isn't good enough.

Kantastic · 09/11/2020 14:09

Ok, phew, I think I was seeing things. I thought OP's post with her 5yo's work had been deleted and that seemed very excessive.

FWRLurker · 09/11/2020 14:27

What an odd book.

As an allegory, it reinforces an “all men are secretly predators” anti men style “feminism” (actually not) while at the same time endorses women’s responsibility for being literally preyed upon (or not)?

Like, of course Brenda wants to attack women eat sheep, all men wolves do. But if the women sheep are nice enough maybe she won’t!!

Totally bizarre.

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 09/11/2020 14:35

wingsoverscotland.com/brenda-isnt-a-sheep/ Wings over Scotland is onto it and has video of someone reading the book. Very odd book. Not one I would pick off the shelves for a little one.

EyesOpening · 09/11/2020 14:39

@Regularsizedrudy

...I’m pretty sure it’s a joke. “Brenda is a sheep” “haha no she’s not those silly sheep are going to get eaten” “oh look they all have tea instead because this is a children’s book and it’s hardly likely to end with a mass slaughter” type thing. Mumsnet really need to calm down with the antitrans stuff. It ain’t that deep.
In conjunction with this though But I am currently using EXACTLY the same story (different pics, obvs) to teach my primary class that some unpleasant people pretend to be children to groom them online it’s really sending out mixed messages to children and it’s not “anti trans” as you put it, it’s stranger danger/people who want to do you harm can pretend they’re nice
Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 09/11/2020 14:44

The US has just been providing the rest of the world with an excellent example this last week of what happens when critical thinking skills aren't developed and people accept all sorts of outlandish claims for emotional reasons with no evidence to back them up.

ItsAllGoingToBeFine · 09/11/2020 16:15

@Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g

wingsoverscotland.com/brenda-isnt-a-sheep/ Wings over Scotland is onto it and has video of someone reading the book. Very odd book. Not one I would pick off the shelves for a little one.
I saw that piece too:

This isn’t a book about “mistaken identity”. It’s a book about the vulnerable identifying a danger entirely correctly, but being gaslit into believing it’s a mistake and rejecting all their natural protective instincts, brainwashed into accepting and welcoming predators into their midst.

Sums it up nicely.

DidoLamenting · 09/11/2020 17:01

@DreadPirateLuna

Reminds me of Zootopia, which was all about predators and prey getting along. Cutsie message so long as you don't think too much about it. But what are the predators going to eat? And shouldn't the prey maintain some cautiousness for their own safety?

Wolves can't digest grass and Brenda will starve unless she gets a more substantial meal soon.

That's the perennial problem of children's stories featuring animals isn't it? Especially if they are anthropomorphised.

The size differences in The Wind in the Willows are problematic comparing a badger, a rat, a toad, a mole and a washerwoman.

DidoLamenting · 09/11/2020 17:20

I've just watched the video on Wings' site. I hadn't picked up that Brenda's initial reason for pretending to be a sheep is that she intended to eat them. I had assumed Brenda was a trans wolf who wants to be a sheep- but that isn't the narrative. It is literally a wolf in sheep's clothing.

And is the sheep's alternative feast a genuine pre-emptive act to deflect Brenda's evil intentions? Or are we supposed to take it that they just wanted to be kind to their new friend?

The wolf does not, by the way look friendly. Is that deliberate?

Aesopfable · 09/11/2020 17:31

Sorry didn’t realise this thread was about the book I found.