Oh, gosh.
I found this so difficult - I read it, and thought she made an honest effort.
Someone I know read it and told me it is wrong because gender is a tremendously freeing concept, and it helps all of us, and we should all be free to perform whatever gender we like.
She still wants to keep gender - but we can all be free to perform it as we choose.
I found it so hard to respond. It makes me think, FFS, why shouldn't we just get rid of 'gender' and say, look, do what you like with your behaviour, how you dress, your body, etc. etc.? It frustrates me because I cannot see why this is wrong but I'm constantly told this is transphobic and also bad feminism.