My fiance is from a Muslim background, however he isn't Muslim himself. He doesn't mind marrying in a church, however he said that a large amount of his friends from his background wouldn't approve, and they wouldn't turn up to the church as a result. I won't invite many guests from my side (I'd say around 10) so if he doesn't have many too he thinks it will be awkward.
I really wanted to marry in a church.
He’s mentioned before that other peoples opinions matter to him. He’s also said that in the past a girl has manipulated him to not perusing a relationship with another woman(way before he met me). So I’m worried he may be prone to manipulation and trying to please others. This is becoming concerning for me.
Should I try to persuade him or let this go and find an alternate venue?
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My fiance doesn’t want to get married in a church because of what others think
Quickrunner91 · 26/01/2024 09:54
Lifeinlists · 26/01/2024 10:16
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He’s mentioned before that other peoples opinions matter to him. He’s also said that in the past a girl has manipulated him to not perusing a relationship with another woman(way before he met me). So I’m worried he may be prone to manipulation and trying to please others. This is becoming concerning for me.
This is the bit you need to focus on, not where to get married. You may find that he will be under pressure to conform to his background culture, whatever he tells you. And not just for the wedding.
If a wedding venue is already causing problems, are you sure your opinion matters more to him than anyone else's?
migigo · 26/01/2024 12:05
If you are a practicing Christian, this is the least of your worries, it sounds like he is not fully on board with the realities of multi faith marriages. I'd be a bit concerned he could be pressured into practicing his faith and the knock on effects for you - I know people this has happened to. If you aren't a practicing Christian then I don't see why you can't just have a secular wedding. All that said, I'm marrying in my church but I attend it, it's important to me, I wouldn't compromise and if my fiance wouldn't agree it would be a big red flag
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GreekDogRescue · 26/01/2024 13:00
I’d think twice about marrying someone with religious extremist friends who won’t even enter a church.
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