Pony for mum and daughter

[emdanmum]

I grew up with horses since my daughters age (7), but have been out of the horsey world since I met my husband 11 years ago. I know that once I start doing it again it'll all fall into place (well, I'm hoping!!), but any thoughts would be gratefully recieved.
I'd like to get a pony that both me (5ft7 and 11st) and my daughter (135cm and ?weight) can both ride without her being over-horsed and without me squashing the pony.
I'm thinking that a sturdy pony of about 14hh would suit. Any ideas? Also, as a teenager I backed a number of ponies, 2 of which were Haflingers. These ponies were good weight carriers-does anybody know of any other breeds that may suit our purpose. The main issue for me is that I don't want my daughter to ride anything that is "too big" for her.......I don't want to put her off. Also, a "ready made" family pony tends to cost a lot-would anybody recommend buying a youngish (3/4 yr old) pony that's been backed but needs bringing on-I'd ride the pony during the week and my daughter would ride on a lead rein at weekends-could that work?
Finally.....any rough ideas of running costs per week? We don't have any land, so would need to pay for grass keep/livery.
I know I've ranted on a bit, but I want to cover all questions before we go any further.
Any input appreciated

[oldernowiser]

I'd go for a nice hardy native (maybe a fell or similar) who can live out, who is at least 10 years old, and who you will still want to ride when dd has moved on to horses. If you're just looking for a nice all round pony it shouldn't be too expensive (until you add up all the extra costs and I'm afraid I share Mitchy's rug habit!)

Be aware though, that you will want to go out riding with dd and a second horse will become essential!

[Saggyoldclothcatpuss]

Em, I too had an insurance policy for a loaner, that's my one exception. If anything happened to the pony, the owner would.then get the cost of the animal back and could replace it.

[emdanmum]

Don't!!
Husband may have agreed to one, but may change his mind if he hears that!!

[Saggyoldclothcatpuss]

Sorry, forgot I posted that earlier

[emdanmum]

It's a big responsibility having somebody elses horse! Definitely would insure a loan pony.
I am considering it as a serious option though. Would make changing to bigger, more suitable horse easier, when the time comes.