DH hates my job with a passion. I've been a teacher 16 years, married for 13 this year. We've been together since I was a uni.
He hates the fact he feels he doesn't have a wife. That I can't do stuff with him in the evenings as I'm working. That I can't leave before 5.30 without it being a stress. (I already get to work latish as it's often gone 8 when I walk into my classroom). That my work takes up time on the weekend. I try to make sure this happens as little as possible but it is starting to affect my work. I'm primary and it means some of my books go unmarked for longer than they should or resources are a race to get ready or other things slip.
I know I should change for him as he says he's desperately unhappy. However, I'm not ready to leave teaching yet. I've gone back up to full time so we can try and afford a house move so finding another job of a similar salary without re training won't be easy. And I don't want to.
I don't know what to do right now.
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He hates my job
Bakingwithmyboys · 10/03/2024 22:33
Phineyj · 11/03/2024 18:00
Do you have kids?
If so, is he prepared for the impact of not having the holiday childcare covered?
If you don't, is having you available in the holidays not rather good?
Does he outearn you significantly?
BestZebbie · 16/03/2024 14:59
Does he actually understand that if you worked at a fulltime office job you would be in that building 9-5 (at least) ~48 weeks a year and not taking DS9 to a club on Monday, picking up on Thursdays, available in the school holidays etc?
Is his proposal not so much that you stop being a teacher but actually that you become a SAHM?
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