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Anyone else have a non cuddly cat?

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QueenOfIce · 27/02/2018 00:59

I read all these lovely stories about cats who love to snuggle, neither of mine do unless you're in bed. Girl cat will come to bed with us and curl up in any available space between your legs, behind knees..boy cat will once in a blue moon lie on your lap for all of 5 mins then bugger off again.

They're both quite affectionate but they don't snuggle, I have cat cuddle envy anyone else have cats who just don't give a shit about how much you love them or want a cuddle?

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Bridechilla · 27/02/2018 20:06

Mine isn't a lap cat 😫 but he can be so affectionate. He's a rescue who's had a tough time so I'm hoping we can thaw him out gradually.

moofeatures · 27/02/2018 20:02

Mine is called Jaws... for a blog day good reason!

Oldraver · 27/02/2018 20:00

Ermm..I didnt mean to post that picture lol

Oldraver · 27/02/2018 19:59

Queen Ernie also loved to try and eta the lights and Christmas tree decorations...

He' not very cuddly..will sleep on the bed between my legs and will occasionally now come and snuggle next to you on the sofa

Anyone else have a non cuddly cat?

Icequeen01 · 27/02/2018 18:30

Yes HonkyWonkWoman, he knows how to win over the ladies

HonkyWonkWoman · 27/02/2018 17:57

Icequeen01
Is Cuddle Bunny waving to us as well?
Grrrrr! Cuddle envy!

lljkk · 27/02/2018 17:42

2 of our cats we had for 5 yrs before they became cuddly (suddenly).

Icequeen01 · 27/02/2018 17:21

Ive got 2 brothers. One is a cuddle bunny (when he's in but he spends much of his day in the fields) and the other has never sat on my lap but will set next to me on the arm of the chair. He is a real home bird and rarely goes out! Here is a photo of my cuddly boy with DH.

Anyone else have a non cuddly cat?

QueenOfIce · 27/02/2018 12:31

Mine loves me between the hours of 3 and 5am, she somehow manages to curl herself up between my legs so much so I wake up thinking I'm giving birth! I'm a side sleeper so I have no idea how she does it! I wake up all contorted and achy but she looks so small and cute and as it's the only love I get. I am the epitome of cat slave!

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HonkyWonkWoman · 27/02/2018 12:25

She luffs me in her own special way! 😹

QueenOfIce · 27/02/2018 12:17

Oh Honky she is so bloody gorgeous I would have the serious grump if she denied me cuddles!

I keep saying to dh I want another cat one that luffs me obviously I won't do that.

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ATailofTwoKitties · 27/02/2018 12:15

Cuddle?? If ours so much as accidentally walks across a lap in bed, she will leap off as if scalded. She's exceptionally soft and therapeutic to stroke, though, and never scratches, so she's forgiven.

HonkyWonkWoman · 27/02/2018 12:09

I have cat cuddle envy.
My girl Suki, is feral, born in stables and rescued by Dgd before farmer found them and killed them.
Not sure how old she was when I got her but only about 3/4 weeks and had to feed her with a pippett. When she was tiny, she used to crawl up my front and sleep under my chin.
But from about six weeks, she went completely wild and couldn't get near her.
She's 2 now and will let me stroke her head if she's asleep sometimes and rubs around my legs in the morning but she's more likely to swipe me from the back of a chair as I walk past, nails in though, unlike my last feral girl who lived to 22 (feisty little devil that one).
She loves my old girl, Cross Labrador more than me.

Anyone else have a non cuddly cat?

DarthNigel · 27/02/2018 12:07

Or cat had always been a grumpy beast. He will come for a brief cuddle with me if an evening and push his nose into my face by that's about it. And he loves me best of all. He ignores literally everyone else.

ifonly4 · 27/02/2018 11:03

Both of mine always hated cuddles. However, they loved attention, company (my boy would wait on the stairs for me to return) and a lap, lap sitting time was always hours (or as long as I could take before needing the loo) so I'd go with that.

QueenOfIce · 27/02/2018 10:52

Love the photos! Here's one of mine..trying to eat the lights 🙄

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PersianCatLady · 27/02/2018 10:30

I love threads like this one because I love the cat photos.

I really do love cats (and dogs)

Undies1990 · 27/02/2018 10:12

My cat is lovely and affectionate, he'll follow me around the house and settle down next to me on the sofa BUT he will never, ever let me pick him up for more than a millisecond!

Here is the handsome chap

Anyone else have a non cuddly cat?

PersianCatLady · 27/02/2018 10:05

Picture of my cat

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LetBartletBeBartlet · 27/02/2018 10:04

We've gone from a super cuddly lap cat of a Maine Coon (who would follow me everywhere, try to sit on my lap on the toilet, and was just a massive cling-on of a cat), to two black & white brothers who have no tolerance for laps and snuggles.

Each will flop on the floor for a belly rub, and one will head butt me for fusses, and sleep between my legs. Totally different experience of cat ownership though.

I wonder whether having them in pairs also makes a difference?

Bindibot · 27/02/2018 09:58

DCat likes to lie on my arm. She'll shout in my face till I put my arm just as she wants it. if I then even twitch she's off.

Cuddles up to DP in bed. . . bitch

Babdoc · 27/02/2018 09:56

I think cats have just as varied personalities as humans. I’ve always had rescue cats, and some will cling round your shoulders like a scarf, wherever you go in the house, reluctant to be put down, while others are wary and will only approach to request food.
My current cat (who was 6 when I got her) was initially unwilling to interact at all, but now after one year with me, she will sleep on my bed, allow tummy rubs and quite lengthy head stroking, and will occasionally sit on my lap, although usually only if the fire has gone out and she’s getting chilly!
I’d never suggest trying to force a cat to accept cuddles - not if you want to keep all your fingers, anyway! - but gradually building trust and routines, trying a gentle stroke when offering treats etc, you can often improve their sociability.

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TheMogget · 27/02/2018 09:53

I have 2 and they are weird, one loves being picked up and having a cuddle but will not sit in your lap. They other is a proper lap cap but hates being cuddled.

Reallylongstory · 27/02/2018 09:51

Yes! Cat is now 17 years old and we had her from 8 weeks as a rescue kitten. She hasn’t changed. Will sometimes sit next to you or come and look for attention if it’s close to dinner time but otherwise she just doesn’t care. Wish I could say they change but ours hasn’t. Was always jealous of people with affectionate cats.

Namethecat · 27/02/2018 09:47

My cat is a lovely ,vocal,snuggly cat, but she is weird as well. Will sit on my lap, gives me lots of head bumps etc but will not let me pick her up. My husband on the other hand can pick her up and holds her like a baby but she will not sit on his lap. We know our place in life.

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