I'm memory of our cats

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I have found the Christmas period a tough reminder of the loss of our Siamese boy cat. However I couldn't have coped without the support from The Litter Tray. In memory of all the dearly departed cats here is a photo of my boy. He was truly the bestest

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Thanks. wtfgs. I don't blame the driver - or you for that face. Please don't worry.

Thirty mph is allowed in my road but a sensible speed would be 15mph or less and that's what most people do, but a cat wouldn't survive that impact. It's reasonable to drive like that. We were just unlucky that day.

Anyway, Sven in the sink is just wonderful AmberNectarine

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I'm sorry that face wasn't supposed to be there.

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Oh god! What a horrible thing to happen. Poor, poor little lad and poor you. I am so sorry and am sending you an unMN hug

Sorry, I'm projecting about the drivers who speed up our road even though it's a dead end.

I'm not surprised you don't feel remotely ready for another cat.

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wtffgs I couldn't blame the driver who crushed Nobby. He never used to go out except with me and then for walks around the block for 15 minutes at the most - he was an indoor cat for 10 years until I got him.

He usually stayed on the pavement but would sometimes flirt with the road because he was a naughty little pest and knew it annoyed me and would get him attention. He understood the busy road but not the quiet ones.

On the day he died I was locking the front door and he didn't wait for me as he normally did strolled into the quiet road outside and under a parked car and actually looked at me as if to say: 'Aren't I a naughty boy going under parked cars like you tell me not to? Chase me and tell me off and give me a cuddle again.'

I think it was because the day before I'd scolded him for going near the road and made him come home. He liked being naughty.

The driver was slowly parking. Nobby died in my arms and there was so much blood. It's going to take a long time to get that image of his shocked little face out of my head. One of the horrible things was that the driver was desperately apologising and I was wasting time reassuring him that it wasn't his fault when my little mate was dying.

Nobby loved going out though. We were just unlucky that day

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I'm so sorry for those who've lost young cats to cars I always have a sharp intake of breath when I see a cat on a busy road (tho I know it only takes ones speed merchant on a quiet road )

[AmberNectarine]

My Sven, who we lost last year, just after his first birthday, when he was hit by a car. He was a total bellend, but we loved him so much.

Fortunately, his spirit lives on in our 6mo kitten, who is every bit as much of a prick as he was. Those few weeks where I wasn't getting randomly attacked on the stairs were hard to bear.

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It's so hard Sugar. Someone said there were loads of rescue cats out there that would love to share my home and could make me happy. I know she meant well but I can't bear it at the moment.


InaMuddlepuddle Got him today a week to the hour he died. I cried all the way home but at least he's with me. If last Monday had been as rainy as today he'd have stayed in and be curled up for real right now instead of in an urn in the shape of a sleeping cat.

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limited to be honest I feel like I have been quite indifferent to everyone recently however the last week or so DH has been surprise 'chucking' Teddy at me and has been at pains to point out how much less of a shit bag he is after he gets a me cuddle. It's a proper cuddle too, instant purring, he has finally learned how to head butt too. By no means is anyone unloved or poorly looked after, but DH is showing me that there is a cat here who just wants me. It's a bit hard to let it happen though.

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sugar Teddy is very well-named - he looks just like a cheeky teddy-bear!

Barti Your cat has a definite look of 'I've landed on my feet here', all cosy on your cushions. It's lovely that he was able to spend his later years in comfort.

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sugar I understand how much you miss George. But Teddy is beautiful and has that same mad glint in his eyes that Nobby got just before he launched a full claws out, teeth out attack on your unsuspecting hand. That made most people, including me, hate him. But he turned into something wonderful.

Even if you can't love Teddy and he never changes, I know you'll care for him. He blends in rather nicely with the wall btw

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limted I do hope your right. We have several other cats but they have all pretty much chosen their desired human now and they're cuddle requirements from me aren't too predictable. Teddy is an absolute shit, he chases the others, he still keeps pissing in places he shouldn't, he also won't go outside even with his brother, he bites my toes for attention. Of course we love him, but for me he is the opposite to George in every single way, which for me isn't something I feel ready for I guess. Here's Teddy because he is gorgeous.

snail it really was, everything was so surreal, and this feeling that it just couldn't be happening. The picture was just one of those days where he wanted to be near me when I did gardening. If it was super hot he'd find the shady spot so he could still stay out.

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What gorgeous cats! I had a black cat years ago. He was an utter git but very handsome 

George BartiCat and PootfrintsCat were lovely and look so contented and in charge

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We lost our cat earlier today. He'd been living with us since his previous owners deserted him. We weren't looking for a cat at that point, having lost a much loved 15-year-old cat the year before that. But he was living in someone's garden and various cat charities thought that his chances of being adopted were minimal, so we took him in. He was a right pain in the backside at times, but he was our pain in the ass!!! We're still in shock about losing him so suddenly today, but are glad we managed to give him a better home for a few years.

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Thank you for your kind words. She was a beautiful little soul, just loved to be loved (and she was). She will always have a special place in my heart, she was like my shadow . The only thing keeping me going is that she didn't suffer.

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Her fur is beautiful, looks like specks of gold amongst the dark fur. Plus she looks very happy

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My boy was about the same age. I know it hurts but at least she didn't suffer. It was a peaceful passing and I bet she felt loved. They do know I think

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Not too great, she was only 7 and passed in her sleep. I'm upset that I wasn't with her and that she was alone.

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I am so sorry, she was beautiful. How are you holding up?

[PootfrintsInTheSnow]

My beautiful girl, lost her only yesterday.

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I really feel for all of you struggling with loss, it does get better, I promise. It never goes away and it never should in my mind as otherwise it wouldn't reflect the close bond we have with cats. I was in a right state when Siamese boy died. I still have a little cry every now and then but finally I can appreciate the good times we had together. Sadly he passed away too young

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Wtffgs our little girl cat can only hunt worms at the best of times. If not, she loves finding the little plastic coated wires used in packages. We call them her fake worms

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Sugarplum: it must have been heartbreaking to lose George at such a young age. He looks so contented in your picture.

It's very early days for you, no wonder you are still raw with the sense of loss. As limited says, I do hope in time you will overcome your feelings of betrayal and be able to take comfort in Teddy's affection.

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What I mean is that in time you might love Teddy and it won't feel like a betrayal

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I love your George. I had a George. Didn't look the same but I suspect they had the same personalities. I also understand your feeling of betrayal about Teddy.

If it's any help, I got Nobby when my mum died and I pretty much hated him. He was bitey and clingy and very fucking annoying. For about a month I looked after him to a decent minimum - clean litter, food, perfunctory strokes. He aggravated me beyond belief by jumping on me and yowling.

Then suddenly we just clicked. He never stopped being a little pest but that was his charm. We'd talk and go out for walks together, when it wasn't raining and everyone loved him. He was such a happy little soul.

[sugarplumfairy28]

My George who died suddenly without explanation on October 15th aged 6. I miss him so so much. My DH had a huge canvas printed of me and George for Christmas, saying that the house was empty without him. He has taken pride of place in my living room, but somehow it makes it feel worse. One of our youngest boys Teddy 18 months, has taken to asking for cuddles, but I feel very much like I am betraying George, Teddy was one of his least favorites.