My cat is around 14 weeks old now, I have had cats all my life and always thought of myself as a 'cat person'.
I am starting to regret getting this particular cat :(
To be fair, it probably isn't all down to the cat - I have been put on anti depressants but couldn't take them due to severe side effects, I have therapy once a week, I have a young (10 month) baby who at the moment is quite trying; teething, not sleeping great because of it, mobile now..
I have a dog also, who is an absolute dream. She causes me little to no stress and as a puppy was very manageable.
She was intelligent and friendly and where she was leashed to me 24/7 I could intercept misbehaviour lightning quick so housetraining, not chewing my stuff etc was all taught really quickly.
The cat.. Well.
I like the cat a lot, and I won't rehome her, but I do regret getting her.
She just won't take no for an answer, she isn't allowed on the table and yet is persistently on there.
I don't like the idea of using punishment to get her off but just don't know what to do, nothing works.
I have tried training her 'off' giving treats on the ground, swiftly picking her up and putting her on the floor every time she jumps, have tried water spray, banging the table, she just won't stop.
I literally cannot leave any item of food on there for even a second, she has tried to steal food right from under my sons nose!
Twice now I have literally left for a second and turned to see her drinking the milk from my sons cereal, this has resulted in a bout of liquid diarrhoea.
She is quite bitey and scratchy, yes I know kittens are but I can't remember any of my previous kittens still being like this at 14 weeks.
Sometimes she literally just runs up to my hand and bites me. Repeatedly.
I have resorted to scruffing her and chucking her in another room when she bites now.
Before I would go completely still and limp or turn away and ignore her if that didn't work.
She runs at my baby's travel cot, claws out and has scratched my baby's head doing this.
Again, she knows she isnt allowed anywhere near the travel cot, I have tried rubbing the cot in olbas oil (all my previous cats wouldn't go near it), shouting at her, water spray, timeouts..
She hurts my dog.
They play together but she is too rough, she has made my dog yelp on more than one occasion and is relentless.
I don't know what to do to teach her to be more gentle.
I try and tell her off and put her in another room but a) she is so fast it becomes pointless and b) the dog thinks I am telling her off and gets upset.
She has completely ruined my dining table chairs, not that I liked them that much anyway but is just constantly running up and down them with her claws out.
When will it stop?!?!
I am feeling so stressed out and emotional over it right now.
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Buttholelane · 31/01/2015 11:38
I'm sorry you're having such a bad time. It probably would be better to rehome the cat, for her sake as much as yours. I would love to take her but my circumstances really aren't right. She's so gorgeous I'm sure she'll find a home quickly 
Oh, bless you love. You're having an awful time.
Sounds like you have a huge amount of responsibilities at the moment. Don't feel bad if you need to re-home your kitten, sometimes life just gets in the way.
Seems very fraught for you. Will you make an appointment with your GP? 
I don't have babies to contend with, so you're doing an awesome job juggling children, kitten and dog.
Not sure if anyone has suggested this, but a Flying Frenzy is brilliant for tiring out rambunctious kittens. You can even hand that job over to your young lad - it's a fishing rod type toy, so toes and fingers are safe. 
Now she's just wonderful - although she looks as if you caught her on camera when she was just about to jink off somewhere and do something terrible! 
Two things in particular.
At 14 weeks, she's only two or three weeks off neutering (recommended at 4 months nowadays) so it's not impossible that she's already got some early hormones starting up. (A young teenager in other words.) She'll likely start calming down after that and as she gets even a couple of months on her.
Also - what's the family set up and does it mean that anyone else can share in playing with her/ tending to her needs etc? You've got a lot on your plate there even if it's only for the time being.
Dh's dad did the same thing with a puppy. Mil had no food or bedding for it.
It's still talked about nearly 50 years later.
I'd be mentioning a liking for diamond rings & seeing if lightening strikes twice
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She's gorgeous! I agree with girliefriend though, if you don't feel you can give her the time and love she deserves (and I completely understand the reasons why) then it would be best for all of you to consider rehoming her.
Good luck whatever you decide
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