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Could my cat have been saved if I found her sooner?

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Zoonose · 28/11/2012 11:53

I am trying to get over the death of my cat who I think was hit by a car outside our house on Friday night.

We did not find her until 10am on Saturday morning despite going out searching about 9.30 on Friday night (we last saw her at 6pm Friday) and again at 7.30am on Saturday. She was lying in a gap between two bushes at the edge of a little park across the road from our house - I guess either someone had moved her off the road and put her there or she had crawled there.

What is bothering me greatly is whether if I had found her on Friday night at 9.30 and she had been run over, if taking her to a vet could have saved her. She had no visible injuries other than one slightly bleeding claw; her eyes were open and her tongue was poking out of the side of her mouth. I can only guess that she was hit - I can't think of another explanation. She would usually have been in at that time of night or have come back if called. And I was out calling her at 9.30: I am trying to persuade myself that if she was conscious then she would have answered me, and also if she was injured and could make it to the park, she could have made it to our house.

I don't know, I don't know if anyone can know really. Because I could see no visible injuries I don't know how she died. May seem like a silly question, but can a cat die from the impact alone of a collision without showing external injuries? I hate the thought that she was injured and couldn't move and died in the park in that freezing night (it was very cold that night) when we were only about 10 feet away inside our house. Or that she died in pain and cold and could have been saved if I had just shone a torch there when I was out looking for her in the evening. I must have walked past her several times.

I also deeply regret not trying harder to make her wear a collar with a phone number on it: if I knocked a cat down and it had a number on it I would call it to let the owner know. She was microchipped but that's no help unless she was in a vet's.

Sorry, a bit rambly. It's been a real shock and I feel responsible for her death. It's enough that she has died without feeling like it might have been preventable by me.

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Simbaautumn · 29/11/2022 18:33

Just sad I can’t find him. Can’t stop thinking about him. 😢

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IToldYouAmillionTimesAlready · 29/11/2022 15:23

So sorry about your cat. It's highly likely that she died instantly when a car hit her. She wouldn't have known a thing.

My old boy was hit by a car a few weeks ago, and was found within minutes but was already dead. Like your cat, he didn't have any obvious injuries.

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Simbaautumn · 23/11/2022 23:49

My 1 year old cat got tan over on the bypass behind my house. A witness said it’s back end got hit. It ran away from the scene into the bushes next to the road. No houses or streets on that side of the road. Been looking for him for 1 week now and can’t find him. My hearts breaking. All I think about is if he’s lying there injured and can’t walk🥲.

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Somuchgoo · 16/12/2021 00:54

This had happened to two of my beloved kitties 😢

The first, we were there within a minute or two, and she was alive but unconscious. She made it to the vets, but never regained consciousness after an unsurvivable brain injury. I am haunted that she may have been in pain, but it wouldn't have been for long.

My second, the car behind stopped (but not the driver of the car that hit her 🤬) and by the time the lady got to get, she'd gone. No visible injuries, she still looked perfect, and she was either killed instantly or within a minute.

Talking to a very friend of mine, with the sort of head impact she had, she'd have been unconscious before she even felt or saw what happened. She'd have never even known, let alone suffered.

4 and 2 years on, I still miss them so much, but I try to make peace with the fact that they wouldn't have suffered.

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dreamingaboutcheese · 15/12/2021 23:49

This must be a post that just keeps on giving. I Googled tonight 'why didn't my cat come home after being hit by a car' and found this thread with an almost identical story. The kind and helpful comments have reassured me so much that he didn't lie there cold and in pain all night before I found him. Nothing will take this pain away. It's been 6 weeks and I am still crying every day but I do feel better thinking it was probably quick for him. I hope this helps others too and send all of you going through this grief too a big hug x

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Clarich007 · 02/12/2021 12:46

Hi Zoonose.
My neighbour too saw her cat being run over from a bedroom window. He was literally outside their house. The car drove away without stopping.
She was literally 20 feet away from him. By the time she unlocked the door and got to him, he had died. So about 2 minutes max.
You couldn't have done any more than you did, and at least you found him The not knowing must be worse.

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Pudmyboy · 01/12/2021 22:27

@Zoonose just wanted to give you a hug and Flowers.
I was looking after a cat that was killed by a dog on the street (according to the neighbours who slept at the front of the house: they heard the commotion).
I honestly thought he never went out the front of the house: it had a tiny front garden devoid of greenery like all others on that street. In contrast the back garden was very long and backed on to one equally long, so there was a lot of places for him to explore that I thought he preferred.
He was largely unmarked, just a couple of puncture wounds so I think he may have been shaken to death.
The dog was with someone who the neighbours heard trying to get the dog off but they obviously didn't try to look after the poor bugger once the dog had done it's worst.

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SLS12345 · 30/11/2021 19:47

Just wanted to add how much this thread has also helped me. We lost our beloved cat in a similar manner 4 weeks ago and it has been one of the hardest things I've ever gone through. I was finally able to start 'search' for some answers to all the questions I have (until now all I could do was break down at the slightest thought of him) and came across this thread. I'm so incredibly sorry to hear so many similar stories but it has truly helped me to believe he didn't lay there suffering so from the bottom of my heart thank you to the people who contributed to this thread (minus the 1 ridiculous comment). It's also refreshing and uplifting to be reminded that there are a lot of people out there who truly care for their pets the way we do. ❤

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ALS503 · 14/11/2019 00:00

Thank you OP zoonose and those who have replied to this query, I have had a very similar horrific experience and have been searching for advice/counsel/reassurance. My dear cat basil was 4 years old and was missing a couple of days (not like him in the cold months) and after a couple of searches we sadly found him deceased, away from the road laid in a pile of leaves, his appearance was so upsetting (mouth open, tongue to one-side, eyes open) and he felt so Ice cold I feared he had frozen to death (I know that this isn’t the case as he wasn’t daft or shy of entering others houses for a snack or some warmth or attention) my other fear was that he may have taken a while to pass or greatly suffered, I understand now through reassurance from a vet and your posts that this was not the case as cats can and instinctively run after being hit by a car, and can and mostly pass quickly after running a fair distance, I am reassured that cats pass away even more quickly from internal injuries which seems most likely due to him looking relatively unharmed other than on closer examination: the tell-tale sheared claws and slight mark to his leg and bulge in his belly :-( he was a dear friend and family member and my partner and I are devastated and miss him dearly. I once again thank you for your kind and reassuring words you have given to the OP as it has helped me greatly too, I am a medical professional so I’m not naive, however the comments and group experience seems to make sense which also helps, as it’s not just empty reassurance.

Thank you, really
Xxx

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Fletchercat · 24/12/2018 06:19

Dear Jane14164, I'm so sorry to hear your sad news. I hope you and your family are ok. This thread helped me so much when my boy Fletcher was run over in October, the devastation I felt then was awful, I really didn't know how I'd ever come to terms with it. A couple of months on I still miss him desperately and think about him all the time but things have got easier. I can talk about him and remember the good times and even think about getting a new cat at some point. Fletcher can never be replaced but I think he would have wanted us to love another cat in the way we adored him. X

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Jane14164 · 24/12/2018 00:00

Theres so much love shown here from owners for their sweet cats and the empathy and support of contributors when our dear cats have passed over. Searching on the internet late at night, still crying, for support, information on what else if anything I could have done I came across these Mumsnet threads.Thank you for helping me tonight. Our dear cat was hit by a car. Reading your experiences, like mine, has helped me. The whole family grieves. We love when they are here, and when they are gone, but miss them so much.

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starsmurf · 01/11/2018 22:10

I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending hugs. My previous cat went missing and I never found out what happened to her. The thought that she might've been injured and died slowly still haunts me, seven years later. I agree with everyone else, it sounds like your poor cat died instantly or very quickly. She wouldn't have suffered.

As regards getting another cat, once you're ready, you could ask a rescue about getting an indoor cat if you don't want to risk one going outside. Cats with FIV can live normal, healthy lives but they need to be kept indoors, as they have weakened immune systems, so there are strays who'll be happy never to set paw outdoors. You could get a cat that has lived with, or is fine with, kids and provide him/her with places to escape the kids so everyone is happy.

I hope that's a comforting thought, rather than you feeling that you won't be able to have a cat again. I'm so sorry about your cat, losing a cat is hell on earth.

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Fletchercat · 01/11/2018 18:34

Thank you for you kind words MrDarcysmum. I too was able to speak to the people that found fletcher, they found him Friday morning but I last saw him on the Wednesday morning. I hate to think of him laying somewhere cold and wet. It breaks my heart. But you were right, he couldn't have been more loved and was doing what he loved...being outside. Take care

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MrDarcysmum · 01/11/2018 18:19

Dear Fletchercat...So sorry to hear your news. It is a very hard time indeed with both thoughts of missing your dear friend and thinking what exactly happened . I managed to make contact with the very kind ppl that found my Darcy on the road . They found him at 830pm and he said he was still warm and fluffy and so it must have been very quick. I had tortured thoughts of all sorts given his broken tooth and claw and so it wouid seem that if there is no other visible injury then at least it is quick. You also are spared thinking you havent seen your puddy cat for 4 weeks plus or so which must be anguish. Take comfort that he died doing what he loved 😻 and you gave him all you could. Take Care. Sue.

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Fletchercat · 01/11/2018 17:20

My cat Fletcher was found last Friday after being run over by a car. He too didn’t have a mark on him. He was only 3 and the most loving and special cat I have ever known. I think I’m still in shock about it all, keep thinking it’s all a dream and he’ll come running in through the cat flap. He was like a friend and we had our little routines together...I think that’s the hardest bit to come to terms with. I wonder if I could have done something to stop this happening but Fletcher was a free spirit and would have hated being shut in all the time. Thank you for this, I have cried every day since and sometimes think I’m being a bit pathetic but I can see there’s a lot of people out there who have had similar experiences and that brings a lot of comfort.

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MrDarcysmum · 11/10/2018 13:58

I lost my beautiful Mr Darcy the other day and finding this thread has helped me more than the hundreds of webs Ive searched looking for answers. My details are like many here. Found dead at side of road by passer by who took him to RSPCA . No injuries . I took him to vet to try to find out more. No broken bones , no bruising , no cuts just a little blood found in mouth , 1 claw split and bruised and front fang snapped off ( although he might have done the latter before ?) Its very hard to relate this to a car and I have been quite distressed thinking of the posdibilities but having read so many similar stories it helps me understand whats probably happened. Thank you all that posted. I can say Mr Darcy was a beautiful cream British Shorthair and LOVED being outdoors . It would have been very cruel to have kept him indoors and there is no way on this planet would he have been happy.( plus he was clever enough to get out anyway !) Many indoor Cats are. Depressed. That wouod have been a painful death to him. I still have his mum and twin brother but his sweetness and personality are sooo missed. I m happy he had the best life ever and it is that which will comfort me . God bless . Sue

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pinkhousesarebest · 10/02/2018 19:41

We lost ours on Wednesday. We have a pretty busy road that goes past our house but he was knocked down on our quiet lane. He was still warm when my poor husband found him. Like you, we are torturing ourselves with whys and what ifs. And also full of loathing towards the person (probably one of our neighbours) who knocked him down and drove on.

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cozietoesie · 08/02/2018 22:27

Don't worry, Anji. He almost certainly never knew a thing.

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Anji88 · 08/02/2018 22:24

Hi everyone. I lost my beautiful ginger baby last week and just can't stop thinking about what might happened to him.
Similar story to some, found him relatively far from the side of the road with no visible injuries. Vet checked him over and couldn't say what might have happened. I've seen other cats that have been hit on this road and they've been quite visibly hurt. But ours had no visible in injuries at all. Although the assumption is that he was hit by a car and had internal injuries. But what I found really odd was that when we found him he didn't have his collar on. I went out a few days later to see if I could find it, which I did in some nearby bushes. It was a snap collar so I don't think it had anything to do with strangulation - the vet checked for this too. Now I'm racking my brains trying to work out what might have happened. Was he flung by the impact of the cat and catch on something? Why was his collar off? Why was he so fat from his collar?
I know I'll never know but I just can't stop thinking about it. If breaks my heart that he might have suffered and I wasn't there for him.
Sorry for the rant and opening up thus post again. This is the closest thing I've found where people have experienced something similar.

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Supportive4 · 26/11/2017 21:42

I can’t stop crying about my cats death does it ever get better

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jules2356 · 05/10/2017 04:19

My heart is breaking and this has helped me so much. I moved into a house a year ago and the kitty who lived in the house came by and made friends with me. Her owner just moved across the street but didn't really pay a lot of attention to her so I fed her and she was my "outdoor cat". I have 2 indoor cats as well. Today I came home and found her on my lawn as described with her eyes open and her tongue hanging out. I've been crying ever since, wondering what happened. It gives me comfort believing she didn't really suffer. I buried her and will tell my neighbor, but I believe I will miss her much more than he ever did. So heartbreaking, but thank you to all of you who have helped me with your stories.

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RubbishMantra · 31/01/2017 22:11

Oh, I didn't realise somebody had resurrected this thread to make a point about letting cats outside.

I do hope Zoonose is OK, and not saddened more by the views of that particular poster.

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RubbishMantra · 31/01/2017 22:03

Zoonose, I'm so very sorry for your loss. I lost my beloved Creature when we were moving house, and had to keep her shut in a room for several weeks. She fell from a great height when somebody forgot to close the window in the room. Probably would've survived if she hadn't hit a stone planter. Her eyes were open too, and she died on impact, meaning instant death, no suffering. So the same for your beloved cat I'd think.

Ignore Iguannas terribly non empathic post. I can't imagine why a person would post such a thing whilst you're grieving. I have cats that are indoor/outdoors who have access to the outside during the day, like your DCat.

Flowers for you and DCat.

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Fluffycloudland77 · 31/01/2017 20:54

I'm so sorry, your poor cat Flowers

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LellyWitchyWoo · 31/01/2017 20:32

My young cat also died 28/1/17 my husband found her next door garden no visible signs just blood round her mouth nose. I am deverstated. We presume she was hit by a car and ran there before her life faded. She was my baby I miss her terribly. :(

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