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Please no judging but I'm seriously thinking of rehoming my dog as he's making life miserable

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Lovemusic33 · 25/04/2017 17:16

I have had my dog for 4 years, over the hat time I have posted on here quite a few times about his problems, been told to see behaviour specialists, been told to try different training techniques, been told to exercise him more, exercise him less, change his food etc...etc...

I have tried so hard, I have tried trying to solve one problem at a time but the problem just returns.

I can't have visitors to my house, he barks at everything, he jumps up at people, he knocks over children, he's hyperactive, no one wants to come to my house and I'm embarrassed when I have to invite people over. I have no control over him at all. He was trained as a pup and was well behaved until he hit 12 months old, I had him castrated which made no difference. If I try training with teats he just gets over excited, drawls everywhere, he's not interested in any other kind of reward (toys), anyone shows him the slightest bit of attention he goes hyper.

He whines all the time, wakes me up whining for breakfast, I have tried ignoring and holding back with his food but he will whine all day. If I stand up he jumps up, if I go to the kitchen he jumps up knocking things over on his way, if I brush my hair he whines (thinks he's going out), if I put my shoes on he goes crazy. The whining is driving me nuts.

He is a lab x collie and. Know he needs a lot of stimulation, he is walked twice a day, he runs with me when I go for a run, he has long walks off lead and sometimes we take a ball with us which he will retrieve 100 times, he has dog puzzles to keep his mind busy but again these send him hyper. I was told that he maybe over stimulated so for a time I cut his walks down but it made no difference, if anything he was worse.

He's fed a good quality dried dog food, we have tried various other diets but there was no change to his behaviour.

I am a single mum and it's effecting me and the kids, they can't have friends over because I can't risk him knocking them over and scratching them when he jumps up. He wakes us up in the night by barking at every little sound outside, no one wants to look after him when we go away and he's destroying the house by knocking things over when he's hyper.

He knows commands such as 'sit' and 'bed' but he does everything with such excitement, if I tell him to go to his bed the bed ends up flying across the room as he jumps onto it at such speed.

We have no dog classes near by and I am unable to take him anywhere by car. I can't afford any help from a behavioural specialist. I have followed advice from others, tried so many thing, it's taken up so much of my time and his behaviour is no better.

He's not my first dog, I have had 4 others and grew up with dogs, I have another dog who has he issues but nothing compared to him. I have never come across a dog like him, I'm not sure if it's nervous energy, he seems very on edge when I ask him to do anything but in a hyperactive way.

I know it sounds harsh but If someone offered him a nice home I would happily take them up on the offer and wouldn't feel sad to see him go at all Sad. I don't know if anyone would want him, he requires a lot of work and I have tried so very hard with him, I feel he needs someone who knows what they are doing.

He is very loving and has never showed any aggression towards anyone or anything but he has scratched and bruised people by jumping up and being hyperactive.

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Lovemusic33 · 27/04/2017 19:31

He's not untrainable, he actually picks up on things quite quickly but struggles to do things calmly. He will sit but struggles to keep him bum on the ground, he will go to his bed but does it with such force that the bed flies acrross the room, he has good recal and he retrieves, he just gets so excited if I ask him to do anything. I have watched dog agility on tv and seen how excited collies can be and how they can whiz around faster than the handler, I know he would probably make a good agility dog but I am unable to take him to classes as they are too far away (I live in the middle of nowhere). He has been a bit calmer today but still started whining for his dinner 2 hours before he was due to have it.

I wouldn't say he's unhappy or stressed, he just needs a job to keep his mind busy and to tire him out more.

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BenjaminLinus · 28/04/2017 07:41

Yep, sounds pretty much the same - does he sit quietly with you when you sit? Does he carry stuff round? That made a difference to our dog - downside being I'm always tripping over rubber dog toys.

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Lovemusic33 · 28/04/2017 08:01

He doesn't carry things around other than tennis balls but this is probably due to my other dog taking toys off of him and destroying them.

He does calm down in the evenings when I'm sat down, he either wants to sit close to me (on the floor near my feet) or curled up with my other dog. If I get up to make a drink or go to the loo he often jumps up wagging his tail and going crazy, if I go anywhere near the from
Not door he goes crazy (thinks someone's there).

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picklemepopcorn · 28/04/2017 18:37

Can I ask, are you quite tightly strung, too? Some dogs are so empathic, if you are tense then they are too. If you had a really chilled day, did yoga and tv all day, would he wind down a bit too? It's probably hard to say as you are always busy. My dog comes barking and fussing at us in the evening because he wants us to settle down in the lounge, where there are carpets and sofas. He's a demanding little chap, too.

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Lovemusic33 · 29/04/2017 07:27

I probably am tightly strung, I'm also quite active and fidgety so rarely sit down (only for a couple hours in the evening).

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TheCrowFromBelow · 29/04/2017 09:11

Have you tried feeding him earlier? Our dog is fed at 7 and then usually at 3 (sometimes earlier because I can't cope with him "dinging" his water bowl).
He's fine then until the next day, Has a carrot early evening, but he's not asking for dinner again.
Also try and teach him a down and wait (I'm sure you have) which gives him something to do whilst you are up.

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Lovemusic33 · 29/04/2017 16:31

If I feed him earlier he wakes me up earlier the next morning and my other dog is often sick in the morning if I feed early, I am trying to feed him later in hope he won't wake me up as early in the morning.

Today I went out and he destroyed my living room, not by chewing, just by leaping around and knocking things over Sad.

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BabyTheCaveLion · 29/04/2017 16:40

There's a very good Facebook group called Dog Training Advice and Support, the ladies that run it are excellent. Might give you some different ideas to try. Good luck whatever you do x

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snorymcsnoreson · 29/04/2017 19:39

We have a similar sounding dog. Things that have helped us:

Slow feeder bowl (although your method of throwing food on lawn is probably better)

ham hunt. Yes that's right - scent games.

Get some nasty value ham that's 'wet'. Tear it into tiny pieces. Hide the pieces around the garden or inside. Dog needs to be away from you at this point. Then send him in to hunt for the ham with the command 'find it'. The energy that ours uses by doing scent games is great.

Be creative - cupboard handles, chair legs, radiator valves. All low down to encourage sniffing.

Good luck whatever you choose.

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GG101 · 08/08/2017 10:28

Hi can you let me know what you decided to do? I am in same situation as you and the dogs sound very similar. A rescue collie cross. Very lovable but a LOT of hard work. I don't have the time for him and I feel terrible. On the point of making a decision. Let me know what you decided to do in the end?

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TripTrapTripTrapOverTheBridge · 08/08/2017 19:51

I've got a border collie cross jack russel - what a combination! What I've noticed is that she is more active if me or ds are moving around. Or if I'm sat on the sofa. She's forever carrying a tennis ball wanting to play fetch and offers it to anyone who comes to the door, after she's ensured a fuss from them!

She's a 6 year old rescue and, obviously, due to her genes she's a very intelligent bundle of energyGrin but she's well behaved and does as she's told. Much like a child, an evening/night time routine seems to help her know when it's time to take it down a notch and relax.

She will bark at hearing people outside but doesn't over night as she sleeps in my room, she certainly becomes attentive to it but doesn't make a sound. Guess she decides we're safe together lol

Also like a child, she sometimes needs distracting with something else or being told something. If she pesters me too much in the morning I will keep moving her off and telling her to lay down. I'll turn away if needed but she gets the point, lays down and then has a cuddle or fuss. She knows it's time to get up or go to bed as soon as she sees or hears me pick my keys up!

She really loves human interaction though and I'm sure she'd have it all day if she could. Fortunately,everyone who meets her thinks she's lovely (and often think she's much younger!), she's quite a happy go lucky girl :) She has had a tendency to jump up, albeit gently, but I've managed to stop that by constantly correcting her. She is allowed to come up to me and ds though :)

A lot really can be fixed by teaching, instructing and taking charge aswell as giving jobs to do. If you have really tried to do that and just cannot manage it contact a rescue with regards to rehoming. I know my dear dog wouldn't be everyones ideal pet but she fits in perfectly here and her happiness and loving nature makes her the best dog I've ever had, couldn't love her more if I tried! Different people have different wants and expectations with dogs - some want lapdogs, some want dogs that don't interact much and are happy to snooze the day away etc it's just about fit and you can find somewhere he fits

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Adarajames · 09/08/2017 02:04

Rehoming is probably the best idea at this point (and being a volunteer with various rescues I do t say that lightly!) But please don't try doing it yourself or will end up bouncing around unsuitable homes until ends up at vets for pts. Contact collie specific rescues, try Val Grays or Wiccaways or google for your local ones, yes it's a crossbreed but collie issues, so they are best people to ensure the right home is found

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Rachel888888 · 24/05/2023 21:45

hi! i just wondered if you had an update on this i know it was a long time ago! did you rehome in the end? x

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