Make me a perfect wife----- CH4

I saw a small bit of it , but had to switch off after hearing one bloke calling his drunken wife a spastic. Second time dh and i have heard that used as an insult since this weekend

what an odd idea so old fashioned (are tehy going to supply them with valium to get teh full experience

it really get me annnnnnnnnngry this type of obvious lying about history. the truth is unless you were financially well off women have always worked. i come from a mill town where babies when born used to be drugged up and left to sleep a drugie sleep whilst women went to work in the mills and children as young as 5 and 6 used to collect cotton from betweent the machines - if you were capable and poor you always worked - whats with this american 50's housewife absolute fking bollocks that never happened in ANY generation of my family - who all worked bloody hard, my great grandmother worked helping the war effort, my nan always worked whilst her husband was away for 5 years no home leave in the african dessert - an army pay wanst enough to keep 3 children - its just an absolute myth.

I'd do it if they gave me valium.

I watched this while lounging in a semi pissed state drinking a bottle of wine and eating chocolates ( the gold ambassador ones which I can't spell) My dp meanwhile was doing a huge pile of ironing muttering something about where had it all gone wrong and how can he contact ch4.

Tell him he would have to be prepared to call you a spastic on national tv. God I am angry about them broadcasting that!

Feel very angry for you, Lou.

Can you redo the letter you used for the other guy (movie guy -- forget his name) and send it in? I mean, it was bad enough that he said it, but Ch4 didn't have to air it!

Have you heard about the book that it is based on - 'The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands'.

The book discription on amazon is -

In her most provocative book yet, Dr. Laura urgently reminds women that to take proper care of their husbands is to ensure themselves the happiness and satisfaction they yearn for in marriage.

Women want to be in love, get married, and live happily ever after. Yet disrespect for men and disregard for the value, feelings, and needs of husbands has fast become the standard for male-female relations in America. Those two attitudes clash in unfortunate ways to create struggle and strife in what could be a beautiful relationship.

Countless women call Dr. Laura, unhappy in their marriages and seemingly at a loss to understand the incredible power they have over their men to create the kind of home life they yearn for. Now, in The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands, Dr. Laura shows you with real-life examples and real-life solutions how to wield that power to attain all the sexual pleasure, intimacy, love, joy, and peace you want in your life.

Dr. Laura's simple principles have changed the lives of millions. Now they can change yours.

I liked this review particularly -
Having been through two divorces I have a bit of experience in the failed marriage business and I read this book with interest to see if I spotted any similarities between the authors advice to married women and the behaviors I experienced in my bad marriages. Spot on. Bingo. It's here. I give the book a strong recommendation to any looking to strengthen their marriage or to any planning on getting married.

It's easy for some to vilify Dr. Laura but if you (as a woman) have ever been successfully married you've either followed her advice or you weren't all that happily married (or at least your husband was miserable). She makes it very clear that the book isn't written for relationships that are abusive and that in normal non-abusive relationships men are actually very similar and pretty much want the same things in their marriages: the respect of their wives, lots of physical intimacy and a good home from their children.

As for those people, women or men, that can't stand the idea of a wife respecting and honoring her husband, loving him and caring for him, it's fine if you feel that way as a single person but you're setting yourself up for a failed marriage if you think somehow you're so special that the laws of human nature and the spirit of man are somehow unique in your situation. They aren't. I highly highly recommend this book to anyone that's engaged or thinking about it. If you think the book is bunk, don't get marriage yet, at least not to a man...

Wonder why his marriages didn't last??

I know JJ, I was thinking that. I got no reply from the telegraph about their awful atricle regarding the paralympics though. We are hearing the word spastci a lot atm. Dh heard some people using it in apub at the weekend, then this, and last night it was used on another programme.

JJ, I did an email to channel four and ofcom, if you are interested you can see it here

Yeah, I didn't see the program and can't imagine how you felt, but am appalled by the lack in judgment.

What about offering an alternative of (I really really hope you don't find this offensive, but think it might educate people) having them completely bleep out the word? The scene would stay in and give a clear message that it's extremely offensive to call someone that (if people bother to figure out what was said). Maybe suggest that they do that if the show is repeated.

Hope you're feeling better in all ways.

cross - posted! weird!

I think bleeping out the word would be fine. I wouldn't expect them to take out the whole scene.

Thank you Champs. It's nice to feel I am not a lone voice

No Champs, it was something I had planned to have a look at anyway, but it had slipped my mind. PLease don't feel bad about it. You didn't put the programme together (did you? )