Tortington · 01/10/2004 21:02
it really get me annnnnnnnnngry this type of obvious lying about history. the truth is unless you were financially well off women have always worked. i come from a mill town where babies when born used to be drugged up and left to sleep a drugie sleep whilst women went to work in the mills and children as young as 5 and 6 used to collect cotton from betweent the machines - if you were capable and poor you always worked - whats with this american 50's housewife absolute fking bollocks that never happened in ANY generation of my family - who all worked bloody hard, my great grandmother worked helping the war effort, my nan always worked whilst her husband was away for 5 years no home leave in the african dessert - an army pay wanst enough to keep 3 children - its just an absolute myth.
nikkim · 01/10/2004 23:28
I watched this while lounging in a semi pissed state drinking a bottle of wine and eating chocolates ( the gold ambassador ones which I can't spell) My dp meanwhile was doing a huge pile of ironing muttering something about where had it all gone wrong and how can he contact ch4.
maretta · 02/10/2004 09:30
Have you heard about the book that it is based on - 'The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands'.
The book discription on amazon is -
In her most provocative book yet, Dr. Laura urgently reminds women that to take proper care of their husbands is to ensure themselves the happiness and satisfaction they yearn for in marriage.
Women want to be in love, get married, and live happily ever after. Yet disrespect for men and disregard for the value, feelings, and needs of husbands has fast become the standard for male-female relations in America. Those two attitudes clash in unfortunate ways to create struggle and strife in what could be a beautiful relationship.
Countless women call Dr. Laura, unhappy in their marriages and seemingly at a loss to understand the incredible power they have over their men to create the kind of home life they yearn for. Now, in The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands, Dr. Laura shows you with real-life examples and real-life solutions how to wield that power to attain all the sexual pleasure, intimacy, love, joy, and peace you want in your life.
Dr. Laura's simple principles have changed the lives of millions. Now they can change yours.
I liked this review particularly -
Having been through two divorces I have a bit of experience in the failed marriage business and I read this book with interest to see if I spotted any similarities between the authors advice to married women and the behaviors I experienced in my bad marriages. Spot on. Bingo. It's here. I give the book a strong recommendation to any looking to strengthen their marriage or to any planning on getting married.
It's easy for some to vilify Dr. Laura but if you (as a woman) have ever been successfully married you've either followed her advice or you weren't all that happily married (or at least your husband was miserable). She makes it very clear that the book isn't written for relationships that are abusive and that in normal non-abusive relationships men are actually very similar and pretty much want the same things in their marriages: the respect of their wives, lots of physical intimacy and a good home from their children.
As for those people, women or men, that can't stand the idea of a wife respecting and honoring her husband, loving him and caring for him, it's fine if you feel that way as a single person but you're setting yourself up for a failed marriage if you think somehow you're so special that the laws of human nature and the spirit of man are somehow unique in your situation. They aren't. I highly highly recommend this book to anyone that's engaged or thinking about it. If you think the book is bunk, don't get marriage yet, at least not to a man...
Wonder why his marriages didn't last??
lou33 · 02/10/2004 14:26
I know JJ, I was thinking that. I got no reply from the telegraph about their awful atricle regarding the paralympics though. We are hearing the word spastci a lot atm. Dh heard some people using it in apub at the weekend, then this, and last night it was used on another programme.
JJ · 02/10/2004 17:01
Yeah, I didn't see the program and can't imagine how you felt, but am appalled by the lack in judgment.
What about offering an alternative of (I really really hope you don't find this offensive, but think it might educate people) having them completely bleep out the word? The scene would stay in and give a clear message that it's extremely offensive to call someone that (if people bother to figure out what was said). Maybe suggest that they do that if the show is repeated.
Hope you're feeling better in all ways.
champs · 02/10/2004 22:45
lou, i couldnt believe what I was hearing. I am sorry it affects you personaly because I was absolutley livid and it must have been multiplied for you. CH4 have got no idea, in this day and age!! They are the first to air programes looking at the trouble and probs that disabled and less abled people face!!
The H in question was obv a complete nightmare, he even called her a nob or something before that, when she wanted to discuss something off air. It's amazing that she takes all that abuse.
I am pleased you sent them an email.
champs · 02/10/2004 23:02
I just feel a bit bad as I called your attention to the stupid program in the first place, thought it would be quite interesting like that one could could you live without (or something like that) But then again, if you hadn't watched it, you wouldn't know that CH4 are so inconsiderate, unresponsible etc etc and hopefully they'll get it into their heads that this is not acceptable.
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.