Morning, I'm not sure this is the right title. But I am looking for advice. I have 4 children. 2 older teens who basically just got on with life. Didn't make a huge fuss over anything. So I know I had a relatively easy teenage transition with them. They both played and still do play team sports. Etc.
Now I have 13 year old twin girls. They are the youngest alongside a 7 year old niece that I share custody with her dad (long story).
One of the twins plays a team sport at a high level, gets on with school work. Has a calm character easy to speak too,listens (most of the time). The other one is wild. I really struggle with her. She is obstinate, refuses to do anything we ask of her,takes an age to complete any homework. She hits her cousin and sister. She throws all mighty tantrums which result in her room being trashed. She also has clubs and sometimes she completely refuses to attend and then moans when she falls behind. I always respond to her behaviour and reiterate that I love her. She hates this and says that I treat her twin sister differently and I don't love her. But her twin is better behaved. She had her moments but nothing like her twins sister. They get on very well though and have the same friends.
I find everyday totally exhausting with her. Anything seems to trigger her off and she shouts and screams at me. DH tends to go with the other twin to her training/matches as he can't cope with her. It's causing issues with my niece as her dad looks for any excuse to try and criticise me.
Has anyone experienced this and have any words of wisdom.
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CurlyTop1980 · 24/03/2024 09:36
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WhereIsBebèsChambre · 24/03/2024 14:39
How old is your neice and when did she come to you? Could this br impacting her?
Bit rude of her dad to judge you in the parenting of your neice!
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