DD is 12 and has been at 3 schools. She is au adhd and very hyperactive. She finds it easy to make friends but very hard to keep them.
She has always got in trouble at school for inappropriate behaviour eg shouting out, answering back etc but she never seems to understand why she is in trouble.
At her current school she has joined a gang of girls who seem to accept her but I’m concerned they are taking advantage of her desperation to have friends.
She is away this week on a school trip and I’ve found messages on her phone which were done at sleepovers and during school time. It looks like these girls are egging her on to message kids they know with mean messages. She is sending pictures of herself to them growling and putting her fingers up.
I’m horrified and have asked the school to have a conversation asap. Not least because whatever education they’re doing on mobile etiquette hasn’t landed.
When she gets back from the trip I'm at a loss what to do. I will restrict her phone use heavily but not sure what else. As she heads into her teenage years I can only see this stuff becoming worse because she just can’t see what she is doing wrong and I’m terrified she will get into really bad trouble one day.
Has anyone got any experience of this?
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Sohardtochooseausername · 13/03/2024 07:25
itsgettingweird · 13/03/2024 08:10
If she says her sensible friends are boring and is thrill seeking through inappropriate behaviours I'd look at finding some more sensory heavy activities for her.
Does she like swimming, tennis or any type of sport where she can get sensory feedback and get the thrill through competing?
It'll also take her time up and she'll find other friends through these activities.
My autistic son found swimming a massive sensory meeting activity.
itsgettingweird · 13/03/2024 08:10
If she says her sensible friends are boring and is thrill seeking through inappropriate behaviours I'd look at finding some more sensory heavy activities for her.
Does she like swimming, tennis or any type of sport where she can get sensory feedback and get the thrill through competing?
It'll also take her time up and she'll find other friends through these activities.
My autistic son found swimming a massive sensory meeting activity.
Sohardtochooseausername · 13/03/2024 14:29
She’s not on meds… Maybe that is something we should explore.
ilovebreadsauce · 13/03/2024 21:50
She is sending pictures of herself to them growling and sticking fingers up
- inadequate school education on mobile 'etiquette'
2 )her friends egging her on
- her having adhd
- her being immature
But what it really comes down to us that it is tgat she is unkind and lcyber bullying.It is deliberately setting out to distress other children. I think you need to look at how you have brought her up that she is a bully
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