and recently came back to live with me after living with his dad for about 5 years.
I have dd (28 months) and a new partner, we are totally skint as have two mortgages to pay while we do up my old flat to sell, dp works all the hours god sends so I'm alone with the kids basically.
the kids have to share a bedroom.
Ds gets out to play with other local kids loads as we live in tiny village with play park, old railway line and fields literally on doorstep.
Tonight I tld him tea would be ready in 30 mins as he disappeared out, again. He rolls up as I'm putting peas in microwave. He grumbles and disappears again, I shout out after him that he needs to return right now, I need him to set table as I need to see to dd who wanted to go to the toilet.
So anyway, he doesn't come back, dd has accident with the potty and I set table and tidy general chaos.
When he gets back I tell him this (grumpily) and advise him that he is grounded for two days. I am not gracious about putting plates on table, peas spill....
Cat is mewing at door as we finish eating and I think he is going to let him in but then he disappears out. I had warned him that he would be grounded for longer if he complained about original grounding so how long do you think he should have it extended by and how on earth do I enforce it?
What on earth do you do with a 14year old male? I don't understand them, did not grow up with men in the family and feel totally lost.
Will call exdh later to discuss.
Ds doesn't know how lucky he is, I don't make him do loads of chores and we frequently have discussion about his filling and emptying dishwasher, I do not expect to have to tell him when to do it as it is his designated chore but he very often says I haven't asked him.
I need to be stricter, while still being fair... and consistent.
But am fed up as am basically alone with him, as I was when exdh was with me, when we'd split and now again as dp is alwasy working.
I want to run away
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Klaw · 21/10/2007 19:30
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