DS is repeating first year sixth form as things didn't go well last year. He has his work cut out; is at a new school; lacks confidence. Advice from work experience manager and from a careers interview at school was to get some kind of job in order to boost confidence and get used to working with people. He's never made any effort to get a part time job.
Now, apart from this being something that I think he would really benefit from, there's a need for him to have a regular income, however small, to pay for the odd item of clothing and to start saving for Uni or wherever life takes him. Because of last year's difficulties, he's needing a couple of tutors and that'll be an additional £70 a week. Of course, I don't expect him to pay for that - or very much else - but if I felt that he was putting some money aside and could dip into his account to pay for things for himself occasionally, I'd be so relieved.
He could make the time to work c 6 hours a week, or a bit more - he spends plenty of time on his PC and console.
Money is really tight. I have two jobs, DS lost his a while ago and works p-t while looking for f-t work. An older DS, third year at Uni, has also never worked and because he's very poor at living within his means, we're constantly having to fork out. The alternative would be loosing his accommodation and not eating. We're certainly not soft - we're just exhausted by years of trying to encourage our DCs to play ball and make some effort to contribute to their outgoings.
We often ask ourselves if our DCs' attitudes are our fault. I don't think they are - entirely. Any advice about where to go with this would be gratefully received.
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Cerys88 · 09/12/2013 00:25
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