Have you still got "It"?

[NotEnoughTime]

and if so can I have some? what is IT?

[Bandwithering]

@virgiltracey, if you're only forty and take that good care of yourself I'm sure you look better than you think you do.

@madamecholet, I love your first post!

[Bandwithering]

Encycolgirl, I think a different kind of face looks good in their 20s. Baby faced. I had slightly too poppy eyes and perhaps a strong jawline in my 20s. i think I looked 30 at 20. Not cos of wrinkles but cos my face looked strong. If that makes ANY sense at all. NOW, perhaps I am codding myself here! but I imagine that my eyes are less poppy because my eye lids have obviously drooped a bit but because I could 'afford' it, it doesn't look too bad. And my jaw can afford a bit of softening. I wouldn't say this in rl. People might say 'um yeah' and there'd be an awkward silence. But I tell myself this!

[Bandwithering]

hmmmm. If IT is sex appeal then IT depends. Young 20 somethings wouldn't even NOTICE me, but when I went away with a group of fortysomethings recently, all dressed up, we attracted lots of glances. Perhaps as a group, rather any one individual. But anyway, I didn't feel thta we were ivisible. NOT yet!

After 5 days camping I felt like stig of the dump though. Had no it for anybody no even the old goats on the campsite.

[mckenzie]

My DH doesn't tell me i'm beautiful/sexy/gorgeous or anything at the moment so I have to try for 'it' to keep my spirits up.
The reason I felt like I had 'it' yesterday was that I felt confident and sassy. I was wearing an outfit that I think really suits me and shows off my good bits, my hair was freshly washed and blow dried, I was wearing contacts not glasses and so I'd bothered to put some mascara on and I was wearing heels (not really high but high for me ).

Today, I'm at home with DD and her friend and I'm wearing glasses, ok clothes but nothing special, day 2 hair which is okay but a little flat and when I do go out, I'll be wearing converse. I think for me, all I need to do to have 'it' today is change to contacts, put some mascara on and add some jewellery. But I know I won't bother!

Is that wrong? Should I bother?

[worldgonecrazy]

The great thing about IT is IT never really leaves you. In my 20s I worried I would lose IT when I hit 30, then in my 30s I worried about losing IT at 40. Now I'm worried about losing IT when I hit menopause . . . .

[noddyholder]

I look better in my 40s than in my 30s I think I put a lot into being a mum and all the school stuff etc I still looked ok but it wasn't a priority. Now it is. I have botox twice a year and have been using a lash serum. Both have changed everything for me don't need half the make up and often go without now,I use a really good moisturiser and never sun my face.Bonsoir that looks interesting

[encyclogirl]

I feel I have 'IT' at 45 much moreso than I had at 25.

Lots of my friends that most definitely had 'IT' in their 20's are now struggling to hang on to it, or frankly can't be arsed to care anymore. Whereas in my case, age seems to have helped me out a bit and I've kind of caught up.

Dh constantly tells me I'm seriously hot, but usually that's because he's trying to get laid.

[superv1xen]

this thread reminds me of that leopard print clad mel b character in bo-selecta a few years ago "I'VE STILL GORRITT!" hahaha :o

[BulletWithAName]

'It' never left me

[Bonsoir]

I am 2.5 kgs away from my IT weight at the moment - it sounds pathetic, but a small amount makes such a massive difference to how I feel and act.

Agree, though, that more maintenance is required with age, and not just home maintenance. Hairdresser, manicure, pedicure all necessary. Am thinking of trying Atelier du Sourcil to see if it helps - am stunned by the before and after videos!

[MrsCampbellBlack]

But what is 'it' - you see I think I mean sex appeal - that certain something that some people have.

I can do groomed in fact I generally do but thats not the same as having 'it' is it?

Or perhaps 'it' is different for all of us.

[brookeslay]

YUP sounds like you have "IT" A&CS very flaunty this time of the morning.

[noddyholder]

I still make a massive amount of effort interspersed with days of looking like waynetta. It is harder to maintain it all as you age but you just have to accept that.

[AfternoonsandCoffeespoons]

Currently sat on the sofa with a winnie the pooh nightshirt, big used to be pink ugg-style slippers, unwashed, unbrushed hair. Yeah, I reckon I've still got IT

[MarshaBrady]

Hair. I cannot stand it when mine gets too long.

[brookeslay]

It can be in your head but, it can also be taking time for yourself.

I don`t bother most the time, though when we go away for trips I make the effort. I need a full swat team of beauty therapists and hairdressers.

Then I buy some new clothes or at least some new shoes. I up my water intake actually use all my beauty products , so do all the things that I should do.

When I am away I feel like a more polished version of me, the swishyness makes me feel more confident.

[noddyholder]

It is all in your head

[worldgonecrazy]

I still have IT and hope to have IT for a very long time to come. My self-belief did take a bashing the other day when I was feeling very full of IT and Cliff Richard popped up on my mp3 player. IT left very quickly at that point.

[NoWayNoHow]

I used to have "it", then lost "it" VERY fast when I fell pregnant with DS. Took me 4 years and 2.5st to get "it" back, and today my day was made when a 24 yr old hottie told me I was "fit!!" He may well have been lying, but I'm going to pretend he wasn't!

[iWILLdothis]

madammecholet....I love your little spiel there. So true! :)

[HalfTermHero]

Thanks Mrscampbellblack! . I am not too sad about haviing swopped 'IT' for Maltesers

[MarshaBrady]

sometimes yes, sometimes no.

I went to a gallery opening the other day, my god the force of twenty something It-ness was strong.

It's partially the clothes, but the mostly the face... Insouciant beauty. I could do a good line in insouciance when younger.

And mostly it's just feeling really good. Think about it too much and 'poof' it's gone.

[NotEnoughTime]

Oh dear, its all a bit depressing. I think maybe we are all being too hard on ourselves.

Im not sure but personally I think "IT" is to do with how we feel and not what we look like.