Hi. I have a 9yo Ss and a 3yo son, plus a baby boy under 6 months.
DSS has very difficult behaviour. He is aggressive and very physical, likes being a bad boy and won't follow rules. This is happening in school, at home, playgrounds etc. He is now influencing my young son and I'm worried.
There are things he does that worry me, like violence talk and also going under the bed covers with my son and taking his clothes off. It keeps happening even though we have told him that it's not appropriate many many times.
Apart from that, he clearly takes advantage of his age, size and "life experience" to belittle my son under the guise of playing with him. It all hurts me because my son is constantly told what to do and normally the things he is told to do are not innocent fun.
I'm miserable all the time when he is here, on edge and very anxious. He is here half of the time.
Anyone in similar situation? I need advice and help. I can't deal with this worry anymore. Sometimes I wish I hadn't had children. I put them in this situation and feel guilty all the time.
My husband is understanding but he is obviously loyal to his son and gets very defensive. He didn't understand how it worries me. But any other child doing the exact same thing to my son would not be acceptable but just because it's his brother, he must accept everything?
I don't know what else to do.
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stepmumSW5 · 26/03/2024 17:41
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EG94 ·
26/03/2024 21:32
stepmumSW5 · 26/03/2024 21:24
@EG94 I would never forgive myself. Hence my anxiety and desperation. I feel like I'm in a lose lose situation and all solutions are painful.
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