Thought I may ask for some advice from people who may have been in a similar situation
I have a 8yo step-daughter and a 5mo baby
I have met my SD when she 4. My husband and his ex share custody and we have SD with us every day for at least few hours after school, and she often stays over.
Now, the family dynamic has obviously changed with a new baby. She tries her best to be a good big sister, but she is also still just a little girl and clearly jealous.
Soon after baby was born, she started asking if I "really, really love her", she often asks her dad to take her sister away from me so we can talk without baby being around.
She also had a phase of saying I cannot say I love her because she is her mum's daughter and only her mum can say it - I was pretty confused by that (and to be fair, a little hurt but I didn't tell). Then it went right back to asking "you love me, right?". There are all sorts of other behaviours that indicate she feels unsure and jealous.
So, can anyone offer some good advice on navigating this new situation to mitigate stress...and possibly not step on any toes?
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Navigating jealousy over a new baby
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PaintedEgg · 06/03/2024 13:20
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waterlellon ·
07/03/2024 19:25
NewNameNigel · 06/03/2024 15:56
It sound like she's struggling to know her place and where she fits in with the family. I would just keep doing what you're doing and make sure she knows you still care about her and always will.
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