Stepchild is 14 and going through a rebellious stage. Not a bad kid but a lot of attitude and refusal to do as told going on at the min. Stays with us half the week, one week 3 nights and the next 4.
However, mum keeps sending DSC over because she "can't deal" with bad behaviour which means we get left with a moody child all evening at a moments notice.
We have two young DC, I work full time and some nights I just want to come home and chill knowing that from 7pm onwards I can relax and then all of a sudden DSC will turn up because of a bit of backchat to mum and that's it, sat in the living room all evening sulking with us then or being told off by DH, tears, shouting etc..
I just can't be bothered with it some evenings so will take myself to bed when the little ones go up and stay up there watching TV upstairs or something.
I hate that her mum just gets to duck out of parenting whenever she "can't cope" and leaves it to us and then I get it from DH about not wanting to be around it (when her own mum doesn't).
I hate not knowing if or when I'm coming home to it or being out for child free time and having phone calls off her mum crying because a teenager back chatted her and she "can't cope" with it.
Just finding the whole thing very frustrating right now and to be perfectly honest absolutely hate being around her, I hate that I have to deal with her in my home more than her mum does because she gets to say "I can't cope" and that's fine but I can't just go upstairs for a break from it and she's not even mine.
It's not even absolutely awful behaviour, but it's frustrating that anything just seems to land her at our house all the time and we end up being the ones dealing with sulking / having to do the grounding etc
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Kali9 · 28/02/2024 07:33
Springcat · 28/02/2024 07:54
Try doing the same back on the days you have her
Or send her home before she gets through the door
Or say to the mum ,you will reduce maintenance to cover for the expenses of having her over when it's not your day .
Failing all that
Talk to your DH ,but as he's the one allowing the situation,and he's very very unlikely to send his own kid back to her mum's ...I think your stuck with the situation
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