I have had only one quick hello with DP’s Ex. I’m not involved in pickups and drop offs as I travel for work and timings don’t coincide.
Recently I attended an event for the DC (primary school age 5 and 7) and she was there with her partner. A brief but friendly exchange at the end in front of the kids, a quick chat about the event. Now DC have requested we do more of this and go on days out together.
I see this is a request of the children and it would be nice to make them happy. My DP isn’t thrilled but wants to say yes for the kids, his ex and her partner are very keen. I am not sure I want to spend my time doing this but feel obligated. I would be the blocker. I can see the pros but I feel I want to do our own thing in our free time.
It’s good for everyone to get on but I feel this is a bit too much - is this unreasonable?
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FrankLivesHere · 22/02/2024 08:06
tomago · 23/02/2024 06:32
Now DC have requested we do more of this and go on days out together.
You don't have to do it just because a 5 & 7 year old have asked you to.
Pearlyb · 25/02/2024 21:40
Why would the kids really want this? My stepkids have never wanted this, neither have my own children. I'm finding it a bit baffling. I'd steer clear, I'd rather poke my own eyes out than spend time with my husband's ex. I'm also finding it a bit weird that the ex and her new partner are so keen - don't they have their own social life? Just say no, the kids will survive!
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