I woud really appreciate some advice from those of you with experience with step parenting.
I have just bought a house with my partner who in many ways is fantastic with my dd but lately we just seem to spend all our time rowing over her.
My dd (3)is a handful which I do not dispute but he seems to want our house to be a bootcamp and seems to see being a parent as a power struugle to be won. He constantly tells me that I let her get away with things, allow her to rule the house and don't back him up. I tend t go for the don't sweat over the small stuff line of disciplne whereas he is a if you crack down on the small things the big things never happen.
We have tried to talk but it ends up in a row because we are both stubborn ( as is my dd). I do find it quite hard to take parenting lectures from a man who is not a biological parent and who has only been around a child full time for a few months. When i say this he tells me I am arrogant and walks off - but I feel he is being just as arrogant telling me what to do!
I know that i am affected by my own step father who I despised and I just want my dd to like my dp. I don't want to paint my dp as a victorian step dad who beats the kids he is fantastic with my daughter and he loves her to bits but we can't seem to find a middle ground on how to deal with hr quite frequent outbursts.
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nikkim · 07/10/2004 13:54
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