We have my partners child 5 days a week and he's recently learnt that he can come into our room in the middle of the night and daddy will allow him in the bed and so he has continued to do this every night he's at ours. I found out that his mother allows him to sleep in her bed which is where this is coming from.
However I can't cope with it any longer. It takes me ages to get to sleep in the first place, then when he comes in my partner will physically push and shove me in my back telling me to move the f-over and I end up lying there, not being able to get to sleep, upset, angry, hurt and having to listen to them pair snoring getting a great nights sleep.
I spoke to him last week about it and made it clear that I can't have the child sleeping in our room and that my backs been sore from being rammed into and I thought he got the message but last night (the first night we have the kid back after last week) it happened again and was told "if I don't like it I can find somewhere else to sleep". I got 2 hours sleep last night and he has the cheek to ask how I was feeling this morning.
Thing is, I'm from the UK originally but am in NZ. I work 70 hours a week to be able to save and afford to put in for my residency, to be able to stay here, to stay with them, to which is hasn't offered to contribute to despite it being in his best interests. I NEED MY SLEEP. I don't see why I should be banished out of my own room. I'm currently sat at work, 4 hours into my 14 hour working day, wanting to cry from backache and surviving on 2 hours of sleep.
I don't get what else I can do if he clearly has no regard for me. I could almost understand if I wasn't paying half his mortgage, the bills, food and doing all the housework but I do more than my fair share and pay more than enough to be able to have a decent nights sleep in my own bed.
Is it a matter of put up with it or leave? In which case means returning to England.
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Almost 7 year old sleeping in our bed, can't cope!
elmiee · 27/07/2017 01:58
Oh sweetheart 
. It's hard, but good for you. Next time you update, I want to hear all about your travelling adventures in NZ!
You gave up your country, family and friends, for a man who tells you to move the f**k over!! 
Move into another room, and let them snore away, and when the child isn't there, stay in that room....so he gets no sex!!!!
Or alternatively, rethink your position, and get the hell out!
Good luck @elmiee! Keep us updated.
Btw you are still young! And look at this way atleast if you get out now you won't look back in 10years wondering wtf you stayed and wasted your life.
Cliché But the world is your oyster! 
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I know I'm going to get shot down by the co-sleepers but I don't think children of 7 should be sharing a bed with their parents if it's to the detriment of the parental relationship.
My daughter (also 7) sleeps in with me when my partner is working nights but when he's here I wouldn't dream of letting her into our bed - unless very poorly or she's had a terrible nightmare which is very rare.
My bed when my DP is home is OUR space as a couple. We don't have any of the kids (4 of them in total) sleeping in with us.
We get piled on in the morning by the whole tribe though
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