Step Mum Bingo II :-)

[Boomeranggirl]

Okay anyone up for a new game of SM bingo?

Eyes down for a full house.

Rules of the game:

Keep it lighthearted, it's suppose to be fun!!

Everyone got their sorted? Okay let's play....!

[wheresthelight]

Haha someone has reported us!

have another to add to the bingo list...

as nrp/sm you must adhere to strict times to collect and drop off kids BUT Dm can do wtf she pleases even when it screws up my dd's routine.

[AmyMumsnet]

Hi everyone,

Two little ducks anyone? No?

While we're here, can we remind you to avoid discussing other threads and other posters over here? We'd hate to have to zap any posts.

Eyes down now...

[truthwithin]

Dd5: can I use your phone.
Me: No you have had too much screen time today. (5 hrs as DS15 & I had gone out before lunch, DP was stopping in for football and needed silence!!).

DP: you have been cartoons all day on the phone. Listen to your mum and use your imagination if you want to draw.

DSD10: Can I use your phone Dad, (has also been with DP, still in PJs, also on tablet or mobile for same amount of time, In same room as Dd5 sulking).

DP: Of course darling, do you need anything else?

Dsd10: Oh, Dd5 is only sulking because she want's to copy me. I'm sick of it.

Of course, I'm pretty sick of it too.

Me:DP do you realise what you just did?
DP: Huh? What?

[wheresthelight]

Ohhh apparently we are all whiny and self indulgent for daring to admit that step parenting is a minefield

[BigPigLittlePig]

My dhs ex actually wanted him to do that.

Along with downsize our house to maintain her cm (well in excess of what's expected) so she could pay for her extension. Whilst still providing dsd wih her own bedroom, mind. Bonkers.

[TheMumsRush]

It beggars belief

[Boomeranggirl]

You have to discuss your finances with the ex before you decide to have children with your DP - I've heard it all now!

[wheresthelight]

I agree and loathe the term but that is exactly what she is wanting to allude to. that as the subsequent partner we are not allowed to have kids as it might upset the ex and her finances.

well in my case the silly cow should have kept her knickers up and her legs together

[TheMumsRush]

Not saying that's what you do btw cross posted. Sounds like you do the same as me

[TheMumsRush]

Wakey, I have looked on LP, I do it to get an understanding of our dynamic and what we can do to make things fun smoothly. I wouldn't post to make someone feel bad like I see happen on SP. Some of the things on LP make me uneasy, mums so quick to stop contact

[TheMumsRush]

Whilst I understand that you don't have to be a sp to post in sp I just don't see the point of going into a subject you don't have experiences with. If I was a LP I'd post in LP, as a sm I post in SP. I don't as a SM post in LP to antagonise women going with a whole set of problems different to mine. Call me crazy

[WakeyCakey45]

I often find it helps to read posts from someone who has the same opinions as my DHs ex, which all generally include her desire that I (as her exH "new" DW) would drop off the planet.

It's hard at times for me to explain to friends and family that yes, she really did say/do a specific thing. They are often incredulous that a mum would be so bitter/selfish/inconsistent and hurt/disadvantage her DCs so much.

Being able to point to a thread on a public forum validates my own experience of her behaviour and reassures me that I'm not completely bonkers as she's not unique, there are more mum just like her about!

[TheMumsRush]

Needa, I don't think it's a term used much in RL, it just wouldn't come up.

[wheresthelight]

haha the rules are adaptable!

i think you leave even if for a few days and let him stew!

[Tutt]

I tried to speak to him but he said I can't dictate or control his life, I said true but but I can do both with my own and as he is acting like a single person then he can be single.
Haven't spoken for a few hours and I'm in another bedroom and will be out for the day tomorrow. Stuff him, stuff his child/child care and stuff their bloody problems.

I don't think I'm playing 'bingo' properly :)

[wheresthelight]

i would be pretty pissed off if DP did this with our own dd let alone with dsc! no wonder you are ready to leave!

have you discussed it with him or is he a no go area on this subject?

[Tutt]

No wouldn't impact as he works for himself BUT it impacts our company greatly.
He has a good 3-4 a day of quality time every day with his son so a 3 1/2 week holiday plus a 2 week holiday PLUS the other holidays i.e.. Easter camping one he takes him on every year, the long weekends fishing and doing 'fun' stuff is taking the piss IMHO.

[wheresthelight]

Oh my life tutt!! I remember your posts about this. What a complete cock! Surely he should be discussing this with you first as i assume it would impact on your holidays if he is using up all his allowance on one jolly with his son.

He is entitled to spend time with his son, but as your husband you should be consulted

[Tutt]

'D'H walks through the door tonight after being away for 2 weeks with myself, step-child and step-child's friend ( Disney Dad overload), followed 12 hours after stepping off the plane going on 'their' 3 1/2 week European jolly (just the 2 of them), first words were DS and I have decided that we will do this every summer... wanker ... now a single wanker as I'm done!

[wheresthelight]

There is one on here about reducing maintenance (sorry don't know how to link) where someone has uttered the immortal line of NRP's have no right to go on to have more kids if it means they have to reduce maintenance as it has a direct impact on the RP's household....and yet RP giving up her job or refusing to work full time when all her kids are at school and she could increase her hours but means she would lose her benefits therefore DP has to stump up all the extras she insists on meaning we have less available is apparently ok!