Dd2 had a squint dx at 3 mos (she was an HIE baby and was later dx with cerebral palsy). At the time, the consultant said this was nothing to do with her developmental delays, and it would be monitored, and the earlier she had surgery (probably around 18mos) the better, to ensure her vision developed correctly. (Alternating converging - and you can't patch alternating, which is why patching not an option).
However, as her disability became more noticeable, the eye folk became less and less interested in corrective surgery, and actually told me that it wasn't worth it, would be largely for cosmetic reasons, and essentially that her squint would return after surgery, as it was largely connected to her cp and motor difficulties.
We believed them, because, well, you do, don't you. She has worn glasses since she was a baby.
We emigrated when dd2 was 7, and the ophthalmologist that we registered with was frankly horrified. He was at a total loss as to why she hadn't had corrective surgery years before, said the treatment should have been the same regardless of disability, (barring any expected complications with anaesthesia - which we didn't have in dd2's case) and booked her in for the surgery as soon as possible, explaining that we were pretty much out of time for her to ever develop normal binocular vision as the surgery had been left far too long.
The surgery was a complete success in cosmetic terms - her eyes are now straight and move together. We are hoping that binocular vision is developing.
I would be interested in asking Simon Kay whether he feels that children with disabilities are left with a second-class service in terms of treatment of vision issues in the UK?
Certainly I was left feeling rather short changed by the NHS in this regard, in comparison to a country where the same treatment guidelines were in place regardless of disability... And would urge other parents to query similar decisions. If we were still in the UK, dd2 would be entering her teens with eyes pointing in different directions. Thankfully, we left in time.
I am uncomfortable with the idea of cosmetic surgery to conform to a norm - but I am even more uncomfortable that children with disabilities are not afforded the cosmetic option alongside their nt peers.