Leave?

[Lost2twins]

I’m not sure if I should leave my partner.

I was very unhappy with the relationship 12+ months ago, to the point I started making plans to leave.

I voiced some concerns when it was becoming unbearable, he made some amends and proposed.

Its been on and off good. But none of the main issues have changed, but it’s been relatively good since.

For my children I think I could be happier leaving the relationship, but feel guilt to leave when it’s not that bad.

My partner says I’m his everything (but while he has tried to be better, I’m still carrying the load and made to feel bad asking for help balancing work/ child commitments because he earns more) I’m actually not sure he could cope with the challenges without me, even for less of the time. He is able to but never been as onboard, struggles with the day 2 day and while supportive/present at meetings never proactive or contributes. Which is tiring especially for the SEND stuff that feels a battle alone in itself

We have some other major disagreements on some very heavy topics, that will come up again in the future. And I would be upset with his views being taught to our children.

I have always felt I couldn’t leave because I couldn’t afford it, or offer the home that fits for both my children and their needs and I’d be selfish to leave a good home where they have this.

But now I may be offered such a home, would I be selfish to rip my family apart for me to be happier?

When it may cause their dad possible financial insecurity, possibly unhappiness, change to their routine and happiness as well?

What if I reject the offer and in a months time things are the way they were and iv less options?

[TomeTome]

Is it your partner or the disability that is making you miserable? How old are your children and what support do you have in place?

[Lost2twins]

I wouldn’t say it’s my partner or my child’s disability that’s making me miserable. Lack of support makes it hard, my partners lack of support makes it hard. 7, school support.

[GreenAndSpringy]

“We have some other major disagreements on some very heavy topics, that will come up again in the future. And I would be upset with his views being taught to our children.”

This in itself is makes me feel really anxious for you, and for the future of the relationship with your children.