I'm based in the UK and my 4 year old son is awaiting assessment for autism but his Paediatrician, nursery workers and HV all strongly suspect he is autistic or ND in some way.
One of the main struggles we have is intense separation anxiety. Especially at nursery drop off. He has been going to nursery since he was 18 months old. We swapped him to a more suitable nursery just before he turned 3 and although he has been doing well, we are all concerned about how bad the drop offs are and how difficult he finds it to settle down.Â
He was doing much better last year but since January it's gotten steadily worse again.
Things we do -
Talk about nursery and me going to work in a positive way.
Have a solid morning routine, gradual transitions/one step at a time kind of thing.
He takes a comfort item in with him.
The nursery try to have the same person meeting us at the gate. We time it so we're not waiting ages to go in (whenever possible) His key worker takes him to the book corner where he feels most comfortable and they read the same book to help him calm down.
I've also taken to asking his favourite things at nursery (he always says the same 2 things but I ask anyway) and make a thing of saying at the door he'd like to do these things and they always say oh yes we'll do those things etc.Â
If I ask why he's so worried he just says he wants to be with me. I'm so worried I've done/am doing something wrong to make him not feel secure enough?Â
He's ok once he settles in, they know his "ways" and are really good at supporting him. They have great relationships with the local school he'll be going to and all information will be passed on - we are working on getting an ehcp in place but to be honest the thought of having to drop him at school 5 days a week from September makes my chest feel tight.Â
Has anyone else had issues with long term separation anxiety?Â
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Fivebyfive2 · 12/03/2024 08:53
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