Currently I am in pre-court proceedings with social services.
i fear all of my children may be removed or my 11 year old son may be removed from me.
One of the problems they stated was my children lack structure and routine. I have structure and routine for my 5 year Old and 13 year old. My 11 year old refuses to participate in the school routine.
it started 3 years ago when he didn’t like school. Eventually I was taking him in a wheelchair and he was screaming as I was pushing him down the street. I was then told taking him in a wheelchair was inappropriate and to use words And remove his iPad.
he has caused me nerve damage by twisting my head quickly to the side when I was trying to get him to school.
the last time I took his iPad, he self harmed. I was advised against taking his iPad. I have run out of punishment/rewards.
he feels that if one thing goes wrong, he will have a bad day and give up. One day his battery toothbrush broke and he couldn’t go on until it was replaced.
He doesn’t want to go anywhere unless it’s somewhere he really wants to go. He prefers to stay home on his iPad or tending to his plants.
He can’t quantify why he hates school. Apparently he is “perfectly happy at school” although he maintains he isn’t. He keeps telling me home is a safe place for him. School isn’t.
any ideas where to start? Either by getting him to school on time or any techniques/websites I can read.
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dentydown · 24/06/2022 14:04
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