Ah yes, I remember the thread. Can't remember what I wrote though!
My dd1 has a rare syndrome known as Aicardi's. We got her diagnosis very soon after we started seeing seizures as the syndrome has very specific and obvious (under MRI) brain abnormalities. So in a way, we knew about her condition before we knew how it would affect her, including her left side weakness. Though that was apparent quite early on.
I would say it sounds positive that your dd has been seizure free and is off meds.
As to how I've coped. Hmmm, I could write pages and pages about how I have and I haven't really.
I think i was in shock/semi-denial for at least the first 6-12 months. I've had ups and downs. When dd1 is doing well I am generally more able to be 'up'. When she has a lot of seizures it can be hard. Or if her 'behaviours' get tricky.
I think the main thing is I try not to look too far ahead. If I think about the future scenario of looking after a 16 year old hormonal teenager with LD i feel quite panicked. If I worry that her seizures could get worse I feel sick to my stomach. So I try and just deal with how she is today. Because I think that you just don't know what you can deal with until you get there and often the thought of it is so much worse than the reality. If I had been told when dd1 was a year old that she still wouldn't have been walking independently at 5 years I would have felt very sad and wondered how I would cope. The reality is that is just how it is, just who she is.
Does that make sense? sorry, bit of a ramble. I am more than happy to talk on email or even meet up if you would like. Your dd is possibly very different to my dd1, but I think the experience of being the parent of child with disabilities can be very similar.
If you look here www.aicardisyndrome.org/index.php?pname=meetus/pages&fname=Willow-Bush
you can see my dd1's story (written several years ago now and some of it makes me cringe a bit!) and there is a way to contact me at the bottom which means you don't have to CAT and my email address isn't visible.