Desperate for some advice as i'm so conflicted about what would best suit my 3.5 year old with ASD, GDD and SPD.
He is not really verbal - can't string a sentence together. Can only label and repeat words. No functional language. He knows his alphabet, numbers up to 30, colours and shapes - but what good is that if you can't communicate your needs or not toilet trained yet. He really can't learn anything unless its hand-over-hand. Nothing is instinctual for him. His receptive language is also quite basic. He still can't get 2 or 3 step instructions?
In theory i would love for him to go to a mainstream school. It's a mainstream world out there so why shouldn't the LA provide everything he needs in a mainstream school? 1 to 1 with a qualified ABA TA and a multi-sensory environment. Is that too much to ask? My fear is that the TA's employed by the school will just be glorified baby sitters who won't teach him anything educational but will just make sure he hasn't wet himself or is unhappy. What about learning? Learning to talk, read, write? Can he really and truly get that in a mainstream setting?These are the critical years of his development and the one chance we have to set the seeds for his future.
Conversely my fears about special schools are that they might only focus on life-skills (which I can try and do at home with him) and not embrace any academia or push him to engage in the national curriculum. I also feel like its the first step to institutionalization him? Am I wrong to think that as well? I feel so awful for even thinking it :(
His EHCP will be drafted in a few weeks and I am non the wiser as to what I want. My gut instinct tells me has potential to learn and catch up but that he has specialist needs and needs specialist help but I believe he will only benefit from intensive 1:1. He won't learn in a group setting which most special schools offer. I know him - he will just wander off and stim alone as his focus and attention are so poor. Does anyone have any words of advice?
- I've been to see an ASD unit in a mainstream school (should be ideal in theory) but it's a class of 8 (2 teachers) and a ratio of 1 adult to 3 children. 3 kids were at a table with an adult but the others were mostly mucking about in the corner as a free play with another adult overlooking?
- I've been to see an Academy mainstream. Really liked the school and the vibe seemed right with only 2 Reception classes (of 30 kids) but the SENCO wasn't around for the tour so didn't get much feedback. When i spoke to her on the phone she seemed helpful enough but then mentioned that their Reception classes are 'not like most primaries and the lessons are very structured.' In my head i'm thnking this sounds right for my son as structure is what he needs but then I get the feeling she was saying he might not cope?
She has since gone AWOL when I wrote an email saying i was concerned about his sensory issues and whether they would be prepared to help find the right TA if I choose their school?
- I'm off to see TreeHouse School (1:1 ABA) and Manor School (Brent - where I live) They also use some ABA strategies but again learning is in groups?
I'm really lost and confused :(