Ok, I am just about ready to throw the towel in :-(

[Ineedmorepatience]

I am beginning to think that we may be forced to HE Dd3 in September!!

I have been getting some stuff together for tribunal and am more concerned than ever about the ridiculous situation going on with her NC levels.

Her teacher told me at parents eve that she has to get level 5's because she got 3's in yr 2!!

We got some samples of her work dont ask how and I got the assessment guidelines online and her work doesnt even come close to level 5.

I told the school when she moved in yr 3 that her yr2 sats scores were inflated and I thought they had listened but obviously not!

I am already worried that she isnt going to cope at secondary due to her anxiety and if she goes in with inflated levels she is going to be under massive pressure academically too.

So obviously as someone on the primary board made clear, the secondary school will test her again and if she is in the wrong sets they will move her! Which will be more trauma for her!

But, why the hell cant the primary just let her score the correct marks instead of making her write and rewrite her writing assessments and send her up with the correct levels!!

We are in the ridiculous situation where one important staff member is going to come to tribunal for us and another is going for the LA. The Indie EP say she needs to be formally assessed immediately and so does the Paed but we are still being pushed down the tribunal route!

In the meantime Dd3 is already saying that she doesnt want to go back to school on the first day of the holiday and is asking if she can stay at home forever, she says she can learn more at home.

Oh gee, I am fed up with it

[Ineedmorepatience]

I dont know about doing formal stuff if I was HEing to be honest, I would probably unschool her for a bit and let her do stuff as and when it interested her.

She is like a sponge and if she is interested in learning she is self directed and just goes off and finds the info that she wants.

We will see what happens, I am not making any firm plans until later in the yr, if the LA are forced to assess then things might change!

Thanks for your advice

[bochead]

Ds actually prefers having lesson time online with NO distractions (major sensory issues) and then set social times. He likes the clear distinction between school work and play. Online lessons are also by their very nature very structured - again a major win for DS as he knows exactly where he stands.

Bear in mind that this is a child that aged 5 demanded the rest of his class worked in silence so he could concentrate on his sums. He's not normal!

As the online school day is short, I'm using currently using those extra hours gained to do basic remedial literacy and numeracy work to help DS catch up academically. He is so far behind with his reading, it's not even funny. Most NT kids only need 2-3 hours per day to keep up with the primary NC.

We relocated to an area with quite a lively homeschool community, though the majority are of the autonomous persuasion. He's about to join a local mainstream afterschool club, and there is the potential of a different homeschool group to meet up with every day of the week if I could be bothered to take him. Right now he attends four different groups including one afterschool group at a local school each week.

Frankly I think that's more than enough socialising for any child, and certainly more than I'd ever have dreamed he'd be able to do when he was at school as these are all mainstream activities - we don't have time for any of the SN groups .

I built up the social activities gradually, if it gets too much, or we aren't keen on the people etc we can drop it without regret. Also unlike school noone fines you for non-attendance if you are too tired to go on the odd occasion.