I am seeing the "issues" that anxious is coming up with have actually very little to do with her child and a lot to do with some deep seated self loathing for something that I can't quite understand or wrap my head around (feelings of parental inadequacy, perhaps?). By your logic, anxious, anyone who does not reject ASD diagnosis out of hand is apparently somehow complicit in the development of the "autism industry" or seeking to medicalise something that can be improved or something other method of identifying a child as "pathological and defective". I am certainly glad that being "railroaded" into diagnosis and the use of techniques that have been shown to support learning and behaviour in children with ASD in the classroom is helping - certainly the "autism industry" had nothing to do with the support methods your child is receiving, correct?
Guess what, my child's body and brain ARE defective, and there is a pathology, but my CHILD is not defective. She is a sweet, loving, gentle, strong warrior who has triumphed over more in her seven years than most people could even imagine, let alone come through and keep a smile on their face.
Classroom adaptations in a MS setting are a pipe dream for us. You are comparing apples to oranges here. On top of that, Bee's ASD features are neurological (she has had 2 strokes and deals with uncontrolled daily generalised seizures from the "undamaged" portion of her brain) AND physiological (Physiological refers to physiology - the way that the anatomy functions or doesn't). Neurology is just a subset of physiology, a smaller part of the whole.
With that said, to attach shame to psychiatric illness just further stigmatises it, and if you do that, you are in for a shedload of trouble in the future. The incidence of mental health issues in individuals with ASD labels diagnoses is staggering. OCD, depression, bipolar disorder, agoraphobia - all of these are exceptionally common in older children/adolescents/adults with "mild" ASD. Fortunately for you, since you can dismiss your child's ASD diagnosis out of hand, I am sure that ignoring these down the road should be just as easy. Let me know how it goes for you.
Yes, PDA is not a beautifully or gracefully named disorder, but neither is Non-Verbal Learning Disability or any one of a number of others. Obsession about the words is pointless, and just redirects energy and attention from what matters, which is how to support our children and ourselves and make life the best that we can in a difficult situation.
Now... on to the topic of flaming. You are apparently unclear, anxious, about what flaming is. What the other members of this board are doing is taking exception to your offensive and broad reaching statements by countering them with respectful and honest examples why you are wrong. If we were calling you a shallow, callous, self centred git (which nobody has, regardless how tempted they might have been), then we would be flaming you. See the difference?
At the end of the day, if, after through assessment and consultation, an individual is deemed to fit the criteria for an ASD, or mitochondrial encephalomyopathy, or Type 2 diabetes, or blindness, it is a diagnosis and NOT a label. Perhaps the definitions of these two words might assist you in understanding the subtle differences between these two words...