Hello everyone. having been in a positive place for a few weeks I am now needing some advice/guidance from you lovely knowledgeable lot. Sorry in advance as this will be long.
I used to have a lovely physio on the NHS (A). She was great, experienced, positive but realistic and got both me and DS. We used to have roughly weekly phsyio in blocks of 6-8 weeks then a few weeks off. She had time and patience and bothered to listen to what DH and I said.
Unfortunately she has left, and we got transferred to another physio. I had some history with this other Physio (B), as I had quite the worst experience in this whole journey with her in the initial meeting giving DS the CP diagnosis. The paed was bad but she was awful. She basically said, yes its cp, sorry about that bye and walked out of the room. She seemed to do most of the diagnosis/observation but was the least interested in either DS or DH or I. At the time DS was 8 motnhs corrected and she plain did not bother to engage with him. She also didn't really listen to what DH and I had to say. I almost complained at the time but decided life was too short, as she was only in the clinics and not in the therapy but fantastic physio A knew I had a problem with this meeting and B's attitude to me and DS in particular.
Anyway when I knew we were being transferred to B I thought I would try it (slightly against my better judgment) and that maybe she was different as a therapist. I thought that it was 18 months previously and maybe she had had a bad day. I also thought maybe she will be better with DS now he is a bit older.
BUT I have tried for 4 months. In that four months we have had botox (great), but the physio has been less than before throught the NHS. I have had 7 sessions in those 4 months but 6 of those were specifically because of the botox. Again that may be fine. The nursery has also had less and tell me they feel abandoned. Anyway amongst the recent pearls of wisdom
1.I have been told that clinically DS doesn't need physio as much now, as he will do his own therapy by using his walker.
2.That there is no point in doing the stretches more than a couple of times a day as they are passive
- But despite the fact that neither us nor the nursery use it much any more he should still use the standing frame to get a good stretch in his hamstrings (private physio C completely disagrees)
- And that there is no point in having a walker upstairs in our house as he will never be able to get up and down independently (He already can in a mixture of walk/crawl/climb and has been doing for 6 months when i told Physio B that she double took and then said that was fantastic).
- And that DS would always be reliant on the walker (not agreed with by private physio C) and we should expect that. Not what she said a few months previously
- And that he can't go to the school we will want as it has too many stairs.
- That DS will stand when they get the splints right.
Now she may be right about all of this. But given I know I had told her about 4 before, (and it should be in DS notes) and, my overall impression that she is always rushed and doesn't observe DS, and the disagreements between us/the nursery/physio c and her physio B I am no longer sure I trust her judgement. I also believe she is overworked and know from other comments she has made that she might provide more physio if she had more time.
As it is my strong instinct is that she is reliant on one (privately funded) report we gave her which was a snapshot at a particualr point in time, rather than the judgement of the previous physio A and C and her own observation and has in effect put DS in a box and decide where he will end up and that as a result of that she is no longer pushing for a better outcome.
Everything seems contradictory and confused. If he is worse than they intially thought surely we should get more phyio and the nursery more support. Also if he is not going to be independently mobile without a walker (which physio C is adamant is wrong) why haven't we had a referral for wheelchair services.
Physio B always ends up making me doubt myself, I find her negative, depressing, and dismissive. She may have limited time but that is not our problem. I keep wondering about asking for a change but not sure who to ask (I still have physion A's contact details). I also don't want to piss her off if we can't have a change but I fear that this relationship is not working and is putting a lot of strain on me and DH and our relationship as she sends us both into a downward spiral everytime we talk to her (physio a and c never do). However the NHS is stretched and I don't know what other choices there are.