Shit-stirring AIBU

[StarlightMcKenzie]

again

[thetasigmamum]

EllenJane You accuse the mother of the child you TA of not coming to terms with an ASD diagnoses and linking everything to Dyspraxia. But it sounds to me as though you also would 'prefer' your DSs issues to be Dyspraxia related rather than ASD or something else although I can't imagine why you would want to do that. Yet this is what seems to be the case.

If you think your child is dyspraxic get a diagnosis.

Incidentally - swimming is something that dyspraxics can do very well. In a weird underwater sort of way. And while you list some of the more well known dyspraxic traits (and one which is quite controversial - many dyspraxics not only don't have delayed speech they have very advanced speech. Like my girls. And we were initially told DD1 couldn't possibly be dyspraxic even though she can't walk through a door without walking into the frame because her linguistic skills were so advanced, and that was probably down to popular perceptions being shaped by people self diagnosing) - you don't list the less well known - because so much more embarrassing and problematical - ones.

I don't know what it's like to be the mother of an ASD child. But I'm not convinced you know what it's like to be the mother of a dyspraxic child (or to be dyspraxic yourself).

And yes you are very much touching a nerve. Like I said - get a diagnosis. Otherwise, I won't tell you about ASD and don't you tell me about Dyspraxia. I am more than fed up of everyone thinking they are an expert about something when they quite clearly are not. :(

[ProfessionallyOffendedGoblin]

Let's try not to get stroppy and upset with each other in the only corner of MN where judging tends not to be the first response.
None of us know what it's like to parent the particular combination of additional needs that is someone else's child, and I don't think anyone would say that they could. That's why it is so good to learn from each other here, ASDs, CP, Dyspraxia/lexia/calcula/graphia and all the rest.
Offence is rarely given intentionally here. Except to trolls and those with mischief on their minds.

Now, Pimms, Tom Collins or Planters' Punch?

[utah]

I would also say once you have a dx of asd it is hard to get co-morbid dx, my son's dx is autism but other issues such as dyspraxia have been mentioned but as he is referred to OT anyway he has not and may never be dx with dyspraxia even though the paed believes he probably is.

[EllenJaneisnotmyname]

Sorry again, theta. I wasn't actually listing a series of dyspraxic symptoms, I was listing my DS's symptoms. So you could see the crossover. Some apply, some don't. I do not doubt his DX, I just wish some OT had been available. I couldn't afford a private OT, and my DS's communication problems have always been my priority.

[EllenJaneisnotmyname]

Goblin, have you got any Bombay Sapphire?

[EllenJaneisnotmyname]

Oh, yes, he soils himself as well, is that on the dyspraxic side or just ASD?

[ProfessionallyOffendedGoblin]

When my DS left primary, I gave the head a bottle of Bombay Sapphire and a straw.

[ProfessionallyOffendedGoblin]

So the answer is that in my Virtual Cupboard of Dipsomaniac Delights, I have every variety and flavour of alcohol. And all the trimmings for cocktails stay fresh forever.

[EllenJaneisnotmyname]

And breath...

Thanks for the gin, I'll go and drown a few sorrows in it.

[ProfessionallyOffendedGoblin]

Now I have a vision of a huge barrel of gin and you with some bolshie and obnoxious individual by the scruff.

[StarlightMcKenzie]

' And the fact is, children with diagnosed ASD get far more attention and understanding'

How is that a fact?

[EllenJaneisnotmyname]

Hee hee hee. Not that bolshie and obnoxious.

[ProfessionallyOffendedGoblin]

'And the fact is, children with diagnosed ASD get far more attention and understanding than children with diagnosed dyspraxia. Because many teachers have actually not even heard of dyspraxia, and many teachers don't 'believe' in it.'

As a teacher, I would disagree with this. In schools where inclusion is a priority, both would receive attention and understanding. Teachers that knew nothing about the condition would research and disseminate the information.
In other schools, they would both be neglected or dealt with on the basis of 'We know about it, my mother's brother's second wife's nephew had it.'
Ignorance about sn is widespread in schools, but the good ones are prepared to learn.

[EllenJaneisnotmyname]

Looks like Crispybacon had his post deleted and MN put that he'd requested it himself. Oops, he's not happy.

[ProfessionallyOffendedGoblin]

Handmaidens?
Think on.
I like my eyecandy male.

[EllenJaneisnotmyname]

Maybe with the Taj Mahal in the background...

[ProfessionallyOffendedGoblin]

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Do you Kipple?

[ProfessionallyOffendedGoblin]

Rudyard Kipling.
End Of Empire stuff.

[EllenJaneisnotmyname]

Is Maggie and the Ferocious Beast still about? Very surreal, but then I remember Chorlton and the Wheelies.

[ProfessionallyOffendedGoblin]

Are we calm and peaceful and in our various happy places?
My DS is dismantling an old clock with cogs and springs and wheels. He will spend ages looking and cleaning and drawing all the bits with pen and ink.
He's humming happily under his breath.
ahhh, bless.