Hi, this is long, and I'm beside myself, so I'll apologise now.
DS is 6, year 1, mainstream primary. His Dad was granted shared care Jan 23. He's my exH following DV. DS started to struggle with behaviour by June 23. Terrible summer, in Sept 23 he went into year 1 and very quickly became deeply disregulated, I collected early numerous times, he then disclosed to me, trusted teacher and a social worker physical and emotional abuse at the hands of his Dad
I immediately exercised my PR and stopped contact. We have an ongoing child in need plan but the support is non-existent, just a never ending circle of pass the parcel between services. DS always someone else's problem.
DS suffered what I can only describe as a violent breakdown at the end of Sept. School has been very part time since October 23. Out of the class room, no demands, 1 to 1 TA. Home life is exhausting and difficult, I've not been able to work at all.
EHCP process has started, early days, have an Ed Psych report. ECNA?
During this time DS had 7 exclusions. He wants to be at school, goes happily, but clearly can't manage once there. It's been torture. Last week he had a prolonged and violent disregulation at school hurting me and a teacher. The Head has now permanently excluded him.
I am doing everything I can to get him some support and therapy but our social worker has been appalling, she says it's just bad behaviour and I need to stablise him. I've complained. The only support we've had is from the Deputy Head at school. This has now been cut off abruptly.
I've emailed SENDIASS, our EHCP caseworker, escalated to our Social Worker manger. We have a CIN meeting next week, I've invited Ed Psych and CAHMS to speak up for DS, both say DS needs therapeutic support because of trauma.
What more can I do? How can I get him therapeutic help?
How do I even consider finding another setting for him in this state? Can I look at specialist without a final EHCP?
I just heartbroken for him for all of this. I battled since 2020 to get him safe and settled and he was until he was went back to his Dad. I feel absolutely bereft and don't know what to do.
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Perm Exclusion, no EHCP yet, SEMH needs, HELP
TalkMeDownPrettyPlease · 16/03/2024 22:47
Headfirstintothewild · 18/03/2024 18:09
For provision under s.19 of the Education Act 1996, IPSEA has a model letter you can use. This does not require an EHCP. If the LA refuse, email the Director of Children’s Services threatening Judicial Review. Then, if that doesn’t work, contact SOSSEN for help with a pre-action letter.
For FSM, Contact has a model letter you can use.
Contact also has model letters to request the right social care assessments. A carer’s assessment for you and an assessment under s17 for DS - which you can push to be undertaken by the children with disabilities team. If you have to appeal the EHCP at any point you can also appeal social care provision.
Irisginger · 18/03/2024 22:57
The CIN plan will be the outcome of a S17 assessment.
Headfirstintothewild · 18/03/2024 18:09
For provision under s.19 of the Education Act 1996, IPSEA has a model letter you can use. This does not require an EHCP. If the LA refuse, email the Director of Children’s Services threatening Judicial Review. Then, if that doesn’t work, contact SOSSEN for help with a pre-action letter.
For FSM, Contact has a model letter you can use.
Contact also has model letters to request the right social care assessments. A carer’s assessment for you and an assessment under s17 for DS - which you can push to be undertaken by the children with disabilities team. If you have to appeal the EHCP at any point you can also appeal social care provision.
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