Hi everyone,
I'd really appreciate any advice! Our baby is four months and a week, and his sleep isn't that bad - he naps pretty well in the day (although usually fusses a bit before he goes down for his naps if we're at home) and falls asleep fairly easily at night too - although often we go back into his room a second time before he falls asleep because he's fussing.
The main issue is that he uses a dummy, and I'm quite keen on breaking the habit. He doesn't use a dummy every single time he goes to sleep but most times, and we have to hold it in until he settles because he pushes it out instantly unless we do. If we don't hold the dummy in, he usually starts crying hard. When he naps in his pram he doesn't need a dummy, but when he's just at home napping or falling asleep at night in his moses basket he does need that dummy held in for him until he settles enough to go to sleep. Sometimes after that he'll fall asleep by himself. Also, we've dropped one of the feeds in the night now and most of the time, he'll fuss a little bit, meaning I have to give him the dummy again and hold it in, otherwise he'll wake up fully and start crying. He settles quite quickly with the dummy in but I'm just concerned that I'm creating a bad habit for him and stopping him from learning to self-soothe.
I've been planning to start the Ferber method around now but mainly so that there's no issue in the future with him becoming fully reliant on having a dummy held in for him to go to sleep. But I'm starting to wonder whether it's too extreme for our situation, because his sleep really is fine for his age - the dummy is bothering me not because it's a dummy, which I wouldn't mind at all, but because we're having to hold it in for him and I have to wake up in the night before he does to hold it in for him to settle, which is disruptive to our routine.
I understand the Ferber method is the best thing for those with serious sleep problems because it's about the long-term welfare of everyone involved, but I'm doubtful because our situation doesn't seem severe enough to warrant this (I appreciate we're lucky). But I do want to nip this in the bud as well!! Any advice would be really welcome. Thank you!
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Sevendayhigher · 27/03/2024 08:41
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