My daughter sees a ghost

[Tinkerbellanne]

Hi my daughter has just turned 4 and has always been an amazing sleeper since I can remember. Last month she told me a black man stands in the corner of her room but he hasnt got a face. She said she has tried talking to him but because he hasnt got a face he wont talk back. She sees him in her room every night and two weeks ago she told me he threw her soft toy unicorn at her. She told him to stop and turned over to sleep she told me. Last night we have redecorated her room and I've moved her bed onto the opposite wall where he stands. Last night she woke up 3 times screaming foe me saying he was really close to her floating over her bed. I got the night light out and plugged it in and she was fine for the rest of the night. What should I do?

[Zakidoodles23]

My son used to talk about the black man who comes to his room. He was absolutely terrified and said the man would come from the hallway to his bed. He would check the front door was locked before he went to bed. My husband stayed in his room with him a few times and then we used night lights. Eventually he forgot about it.

[LadyEloise]

Oh Sweet Jesus !
I'd be terrified. I'm a wuss.

[MolyHolyGuacamole]

@sweetpotatopie12

Night light, holy water, sound machine, exorcism

My favourite response 😂

[XDownwiththissortofthingX]

Someone has seen his sister's night light and fancies one for himself

[Tinkerbellanne]

Since the night light my daughter is sleeping amazingly with no more mention of the "black man". Only thing is my son who is 6 is now saying he is seeing him in his room by his desk. He says the black man runs towards him then disappears x

[LadyEloise]

Have things improved @Tinkerbellanne ?

[JemimaTiggywinkle]

Agree with people saying make sure the room is tidy and there’s nothing hanging on the door (for example) that could look like a silhouette in the dark.

Glad the nightlight helped.

When I was a child there was a really ugly old wardrobe in my room and I used to have a reoccurring dream that a scary wolf would come out of it. This “ghost” is no more real than my imaginary wolf.

[3babylady]

Coming from a woman who never slept alone for years because of a similar experience as a child, sleep with her for the next few nights. I would literally sleep anywhere but my room.

[SackofTurtles]

@letsmakethishappen

This is serious op. Have you moved house yet?? Poor child she is right. I used to see this 10 yrs ago and after research I learned that the block of flats i used to live in used to be a graveyard before they were built. I moved out. I used to see this ghost by my bedroom door staring at me . I have goosebumps writing this .I haven’t seen anything since moving house. It was HELL.

Grow up, @letsmakethishappen. Let me categorically tell you that whatever your child self believed she saw in her bedroom, it is far more likely to be a trick of the light or the product of a susceptible imagination that the spirits of the dead, angry that someone had built flats on their graves.

I mean, you get that people die everywhere, right?

[fabulousspider]

Oops just seen PP suggested this!

[fabulousspider]

"Monster" spray, as I saw on here somewhere. water spray the room, saying it's special and gets rid of ghosts and monsters!!

[ManicPixie]

@letsmakethishappen

This is serious op. Have you moved house yet?? Poor child she is right. I used to see this 10 yrs ago and after research I learned that the block of flats i used to live in used to be a graveyard before they were built. I moved out. I used to see this ghost by my bedroom door staring at me . I have goosebumps writing this .I haven’t seen anything since moving house. It was HELL.

Ghosts don't exist. Your mind was playing tricks, as is the OP's daughter. Moving house to solve the problem is ridiculous.

[TheVolturi]

@letsmakethishappen with respect, that's a little bit dramatic.

[letsmakethishappen]

This is serious op. Have you moved house yet?? Poor child she is right. I used to see this 10 yrs ago and after research I learned that the block of flats i used to live in used to be a graveyard before they were built. I moved out. I used to see this ghost by my bedroom door staring at me . I have goosebumps writing this .I haven’t seen anything since moving house. It was HELL.

[SackofTurtles]

@Aroundtheworldin80moves

I saw a ghost nightly at a similar age. It was in the hallway outside my room.
As an adult I can see the shadow that was my 'ghost' (the way a light from the next house comes through the window of my parents house). But it was very real when I was a child.

Exactly this. I had a ‘ghost’ that was a garment hanging on the back of my childhood bedroom door that looked completely unremarkable in daytime and like a threatening silhouette by night. Spend some time in there in night-time conditions to figure out what triggered this fear for your DD. In fact, spending a night or two sleeping there might be a good idea anyway.

[YesIDoLoveCrisps]

I agree with the ghost spray. I have done this in the past. I put some Zoflora and water in a spray bottle (ghosts don’t like the floral smell ) and sprayed it around in his room.

[sashh]

I've just remembered something my mum did. My brother was afraid of monsters in his bedroom so mum sat down with my brother and drawing paper and they created a monster that would protect him from other monsters.

Obviously this approach depends on the child.

[yaboo]

Play it down. Don't 'feed' the 'ghost' by talking about it, explaining it, getting her to draw pictures, any of that. Just keep the night light on. Nice sleep routine before bed, happy stories, glass of milk, etc. She'll grow out of it.

[Calledyoulastnightfromglasgow]

Is there another room she can sleep in?

I would also try to have someone come out to help (hard at moment).

Actually laughing at the person who said they don’t believe in ghosts and then saw one

[Wobblywombat]

When I was a child, I often saw a man in black who wore a black balaclava like hat on his head so you couldn’t see his face. Always standing still and never talking.
My parents helped me get over it by ensuring my room was tidy every day, cupboard doors closed, no objects lying around that could be mistaken for something scary in the dark - and leaving my door open a crack for a bit of light to come in.
It was scary but really all in my head. Happy bedtime stories should help?

[sashh]

OP

I often see 'people' when I wake in the night, it's actually a combination of my voile window covering, the moon, the outside light and objects in the bedroom.

And yes I have had them float over me.

Although I've not had anything thrown at me.

[TaraR2020]

This was probably just shadows - amazing shadows you pick out in a darkened room, especially if there's also a pattern in the room that your eye is just making out. A bit like seeing faces in your grans old flowery curtains.

Creepy as a child, never took much for these shadows to start to move but it was just tired eyes and imagination, the brain attempting to prescribe a recognisable shape to something.

Keep up with the nightlight and don't mention it again, if she sees it she'll let you know

[grassisjeweled]

What has she been watching on TV?

[LoudestCat14]

It's almost certainly a shadow being thrown in one corner! Especially if she went back to sleep with the night light on. Have a look at objects in her room that might be making the shape and move it out of the way.

[Einszwei]

Use 'ghost spray'...fill a spray bottle with water and stick a label to it. Spray it with her before she goes to bed at night to keep the ghosts away.